Amen! I work on a high risk OB floor and some of my patients actually get offended if I imply that they would be married to the FOB (father of baby - or as we like to say, “sperm donor”). Like he’s fine to sleep with, but marry? No way. I try to be safe and just refer to the male in the room as “daddy.”
Of course last week my patient said “no, that’s my other baby’s daddy. This baby’s daddy’s in jail.”
I’d be bragging there.
^^^ aren’t you glad your user name isn’t mama2nate&anna&george&beverly&sid&martha&lucy&clarice&matt&littleclarinda?
I really think it’s despicable that anyone would deliberately become pregnant out of wedlock with a child (or children) they know they won’t be able to support and think that they have the right to have their children supported at taxpayer expense. If you’re having unprotected sex, you are deliberately becoming pregnant.
The “she might be opposed to birth control for religious reasons” doesn’t wash with me. I don’t know of any religion that prohibits birth control that also doesn’t prohibit sex outside of marriage. If she’s not practicing a religion that forbids unmarried sex, (and the fact that she is an unmarried mother of ten children is proof that she is not) it is hightly doubtful that she’s practicing a religion that forbids birth control. She should be using it. I don’t think it should be state-mandated, though.
A few states have laws on the books that do not allow for additional welfare benefits to be paid to mothers who continue to have children while on welfare. I think this is a good approach. It would discourage women from continuing to have children while on welfare.