Meet Thunder, the Perfectly Nice Cat

Bit of background- my mother works with the mentally retarded (Yay, Mom!). Her clients are basically high-funtioning people (well, all but one of them, which I’ll get to in a minute).

Anyhoo, a man in the apartment complex where her clients live had a cat, got a dog, and decided he didn’t want the cat anymore. So, he gave the kitty to a little girl who just happened to be walking by (his idea of finding a new home for the cat was to yell “Hey, you want a cat” at random passers-by"). Well, needless to say, the girl’s parents would not allow her to keep the cat and she gave it back. So, the man threw the cat out and refused to feed it. Meanwhile, his son, who is too young to grock that the cat is no longer a member of the household, keeps insisting that it’s his kitty.

Mom was feeding the cat, but the amount of food she was giving him was not enough to keep him from near-starvation. Also, he seemed very skittish and afraid of people. One day last week, Mom gave him seconds. He ate, and seemed grateful. With a full tummy, he became very friendly and affectionate. One of her clients, I’ll call her Meg, decided she wanted the cat.

Now Meg is not exactly high-functioning. On top of being retarded, she is also mentally ill (schizophrenic, I think). She isn’t clean about herself or her apartment. Her idea of takinga bath is to sit in the tub for fifteen seconds and swipe at her skin with a wet washcloth. Mom had her doubts about letting her have the cat, but after she talked to her boss, she decided to let Meg take the cat in, on the condition that if she didn’t take proper care of it (feed it, keep the catbox clean), Mom would take the cat away from her. She figured that if she saw immediate consequences for her actions (or failure thereof), it might help her learn some responsibility. Meg had the cat four days. Apparently the catbox was overflowing with cat shit, and there was litter strewn all over the floor that Meg hadn’t bothered to vacum up.

So, Mom brought Thunder home on Teusday… Much growling and hissing on the parts of Conan the Wonderkitty and Schrodinger the InvisiCat, although Schrodinger seemed to be warming up to him. Yesterday, Mom dropped Conan and Schrodinger off at the vet to be declawed (I’m opposed to the idea, but the furniture was getting shredded. Also, the vet doesn’t lop the toes off at the knuckle, she only takes that portion of the toes that the claw sheath grows out of- they should still have pretty good paw dexterity.) We’re picking them up tomorrow, and at the same time,we’re taking Thunder in for an exam, distemper shots, worming, etc.

I’m a bit worried. I wonder how long it will take for Cpnan and Schrodinger to accept their new roomie. Mom is thinking of keeping Thunder confined until we get him neutered and declawed, so everyone will be on equal footing (pawing?) while the three of them, um, sort out the feline heirarchy.

Anybody have any suggestions on how to introduce the cats (not that they haven’'t met, but…) and get them all to play nice together with minimal violence? All the advice I’ve read on the subject seems pretty unworkable (Keep the new cat confined in one room, with a see-through barrier of some sort, this in a two-bedroom apartment- basically this approach would require a spare room that the new guy could be kept in and we ain’t got one).

I have a new kitten too. My vet told me to let the other cats hiss and growl at the new kitten, so she knows her place. Don’t let it get out of hand so any cat gets hurt though.

So far, Bo has totally accepted the kitten, but Abby hasn’t. She’ll tolerate her for a few minutes, but gets away fast. We have a house that is separated (we have dogs, too) so Abby hangs with the dogs most of the time now (she hanged with the dogs before, she seems to like them better than the other cat anyway).

It might be that they will never get along buddy buddy like - I’ve seen that happen too. But given time, they can learn to live together in peace.

Some people say to make all the cats smell the same - I am not sure exactly how to do this, rub them all with a catnip scented towel, perhaps? I’m glad your mom saved the cat, poor thing.

Yay. Cat hierarchy fights. I’d introduce them with considerable supervision and a spray bottle, but past a certain point, (say after going to bed) you’ve just got to hope they eventually learn to accept each other.

A variation on the separate-room-with-seethrough-barrier which I once read about is to put the new cat under a laundry basket (the kind with open-mesh sides) with something heavy enough on top to keep the cat inside. This keeps him visible but inaccessible so everyone can get acquainted with minimal damage. Obviously, this is a first-meeting solution, not a long-term one.

In our case, the two times we’ve brought new kittens into our house, we’ve just let them loose and prepared to referee any fights. The first time the kittens looked around and when one of the other cats started toward them they both hissed at him. He stopped, looked them over, then turned and walked away. We never did figure out if this meant they weren’t worth fighting with or if he was accepting their obvious superiority, but there were never any fights. YMMV

Hmmm- I’ll have to try that laundry basket trick, but I don’t want to keep Thunder under it for very long. I’m kind of hoping that when my other two boys come home, with Thunder smell all over the apartment, they’ll recognize him as Not a Strange Cat, and at least not try to pick fights, if not become buddy-buddy with him.