L Boris… When Omn disagreed with my analysis, I figured he was disagreeing with the orginal premise I made about there not being sufficient research out there on dads. I figured he just skipped the questions and hit my post at the base before ever considering to answer any questions.
Of course, I could have been completely lost (not anything new at all, mind you), and he could have been shucking something at one of my questions. LOL In which case, I might as well just bury myself after laughing at myself to death for responding. Guess I’ll have to be more careful about making claims before questions. Rule for Sara from now on… no claims… just flat questions.
CMET: I read one study that stated that men are a much more difficult population to get ahold of. Unless you are considering (as you mentioned) getting men who are “forced” to be part, because of a treatment program or anger management, etc. Also, a lot of the men in studies (according to THIS study) were just reports from the court system… meaning, guys who beat on their kids and do nasty awful things to them. All of which (as you said ) puts quite a damper on finding a good control group L They intimated that there is a need for a new type of recruitment and testing since the men work differently, and that conventional means don’t work. shrugs I don’t recall what means they stated would be good.
And I agree along with most I think, that surveys are a crummy way to gather data. Though, it is one of the cheapest… and least time consuming. Sad… that no one has thought of anything else that might work for so cheap. But, like everyone knows… people are incredibly confusing. Guess, that makes testing them confusing too.
My son has no father… never has. And most likely will never. It’s a sad state of affairs in SOME ways… for most people. I think, in our case, that he is a lucky child. However, I have to wonder at what he is missing, that I am unable to give him. It IS true, there are some big differences between men and women. And as much as I (someone who has fought that idea for YEARS L) would hate to admit it, a good male role model will be appreciated in his life. So you see? I do have somewhat of an alterior motive in finding out info on fathers and their influence. Single fathers are on the rise, but most of them are divorcees with kids (meaning we are back to the “what part of kid is mom, what part is dad?” question). People like me, with no father or no mother at all in the parental unit, are still not very frequent enough to make a good study on what a child does with just one.
Hrmm… so… I still asked the questions to see if anyone might have a differing opinion than I. I hate the idea of throwing men out as unimportant. Yet… I still agree with Kelli when talking about “vital.” And how a single mother is much better than a terrible father. As a single mother, what is your child missing though? What do dads give their kids that no one else can?
Growing old is manditory. Growing wise is optional.