Mild Pitting of Beck

The BBQ Pit
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Seriously, WTH? So … let’s say I, CairoCarol, wrote a PM to BeautifulBertha (a poster name I just made up).

BB thinks, rightly or wrongly, that my PM was inappropriate, and she PMs you, a poster she respects, to ask for you input.

Does this mean that my PMs to BB are now fair game to be openly shared on the Dope?

I think I must misunderstand, and I invite your clarification. Because that seems totally nuts.

I will happily admit my stupid mistake when you explain that I’m totally misunderstanding.

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I’m not a Mod. But if Poster A gets Scam attempts from Poster B, and A is a friend of G (with a copy of the PM), and asks for advice, and G says “Report the Bitch”, ‘’ which she does to Mod WE…

I think any privacy has gone out the window at this point

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Short Answer: Internet is Forever. I’ve got copies of all the bullshit people have sent Beck on this board. Tit pics requests, money requests, reaching out for help from Powers that Be…ad nauseum…

There is no Delete, it seems

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Not my question. Of course the internet is forever, duh! Nothing I asked was related to that rather obvious statement.

The fact that the internet is forever does not, in my book, translate to “PMs can therefore morally be made public on the internet,” which unless I grossly misunderstand you (and maybe I am), is very close to what you are saying.

To continue, it seems that Poster A (Beck), got an alleged scam attempt via PM from Poster B (SuntanLotion), and then Poster A (Beck), contacted her (real life? multi-internet contact? SDMB only?) friend G (Gatopescado) and said “help, I think Poster B is trying to scam me.”

Friend G (you), then said by PM “report the bitch.”

This all translates to, “now Friend G has the moral right to say, on the open message board, what their highly accusatory interpretation is of the PMs by Poster B”?

Tell me where I’m interpreting your posts wrongly. I must be - I find it hard to believe this is what you are actually claiming.

Note that I’m not defending Poster B. That person could be an egregious scammer; I have no proof one way or the other.

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I’m not a lawyer (most everywhere), or a Mod. I can not do that.

But what makes you think A can’t tell G what B is PMing? Some kind of Pinky-Swear?

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The fact that you are not an attorney or a mod means you cannot answer reasonably polite questions about PM processes on a message board? Um, I beg to differ.

I never said that. OF COURSE poster A can talk by PM to G about what B is PMing. That does NOT mean to me that “now, Friend G has the moral right to talk openly about it on the internet.”

Unless, of course, both Poster A and B gave you explicit permission to share the content and/or exact wording of the PM conversation on the open board. (Permission by a Mod might be nice, too.)

Did you receive those permissions?

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I TOLD poster A that I was gonna light up poster B for being a Fucking ScamBag Shithook, and that poster A should stay the fuck away from the thread.

I’m tired of the constant Low Boil of Beck Disenfranchisement (Best Album City Streets ever put out) that goes on around here. Yeah, she’s full of shit a lot of the time, But she’s got something going on that supersedes any crap you pseudointellectuals have. She has Joy. And that is something that is sore fully lacking these days.

All you fucking haters go back to when she first showed up and see what a breath of Fresh Fucking Air she was.

I like her a little.

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I think I just hurt a rib laughing.

I think I was the one who (jokingly at the time) suggested you to get a room, 'bout four five years ago.

I rescind the joking part.

WAS

Was.

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I want to clarify, to point out that the Pit Thread was being driven by ulterior motives to slag Beck

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She has been looking for that post forever!!!

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For the record, I am not a “fucking hater.” Believe that or not, I dont’ care.

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I would never consider you a “hater”.

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Okay.

I can make life easier for both of you.

Beckdawrek and Gatopescado … may I very politely suggest that y’all need to get a room together.

I’m sure you’d get along just swimmingly in person, instead of idolizing the idealized version of each other you both respectively hold dear in your minds.

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You Smooth Talkin’ Sexy-Type Devil, You! :grin:

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Clearing up misinformation.
Beck and I used to chat by text.
Last October I had been complaing about lack of work.
She without prompting from me, offered to send me a small amount.
We stayed friends.
But eventually her Dope posts of hijacking and martyring were too much.
So Gato is so upset that people dare to keep calling her on it, without success, G must go in attack mode.
So what about all the other posters saying they are calling her on it?
Can’t slam them, Maybe they have a point.
Can she improve?

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My dad was fond of stating “I’m only nice to people I don’t like”

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So do I

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Maybe, to clear it up, you could give Catfish permission to post the PMs he thinks are the scams? Because this is getting tiresome.

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As a disinterested (one might argue mostly uninterested) reader of this thread, my take is as follows: if I’m Poster A bending Poster G’s metaphorical ear via PM, I implicitly expect Poster G to keep it in confidence. Should Poster G express an intention to “light up” Poster B, I would immediately make that expectation explicit.

By the same token, if I’m Poster G having my metaphorical ear bent, after suggesting that Poster A “report that [Poster B],” I then take no further action.

That’s just me, of course (and may have something to do with why I’ve never been Pitted*)

*(properly Pitted, that is. Some might argue that I was recently Pitted for complaining about a common syntax idiosyncrasy that drives me up the wall, but I find that difficult to take seriously.)

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