Tongue-tied doesn’t mean what you think it does. It simply means having trouble getting words out, for whatever reason. The poster who used that phrase would never have insulted you the way you assume.
It also means a medical condition where the tongue is attached to the bottom of the mouth too far (the lingual frenulum) and needs to have it snipped to release it. But most people aren’t using it in that sense.
I don’t think I’ve ever posted in a personal Pit thread but this has pushed me to it. You come from a place of wealth and privilege. You can easily afford to do these things. That’s lovely. But you do realize that there are people, some on this very board, who are not wealthy and who make sacrifices in their daily lives so that they can also do these things. AND they don’t brag about it or use those actions as an excuse to be free from criticism. Some have mentioned that this place is a refuge for you and therefore you shouldn’t be held to the same standards as everyone else. I’m willing to bet that it’s a refuge for a lot of people here. And that fact does not confer anything special on anyone.
Opal had the genuine and awesome ability to avoid threads she knew had the potential to be painful to her - she just shrugged, decided not to read them, and stuck with her decision.
She and I PM’d a few times during the epic buckeye thread - at one point we (buckeye thread participants) were posting a bunch of trypophobia links so I warned her she might want to stay away - I got a really nice note back from her thanking me and assuring me she knew about the pit thread, had not ever opened it, and wasn’t going to. She seemed to take a very philosophical, hands-off “pitters gotta pit, I don’t gotta read” attitude.
I rolled my eyes as energetically as anyone at Opal’s excesses, but I always admired that one aspect about her.
What’s wrong with being sexy?
In that picture, is that a brown Black Bear?
I was not aware that “tongue-tied” was a slur, and I would never knowingly use a word that carries the same negative connotations as “retarded.”
I am not able to come up with any evidence that “tongue-tied” is used derisively - Uncle Google seems to agree with my definition, particularly that in casual language it means someone who is reticent in public due to nervousness. It has nothing to do with intellectual capacity. (I knew someone whose child had the literal “tongue-tied” condition as well, so I know that meaning too.)
But I’m happy to stop using it in reference to Beck, as I don’t want to give the impression I’m calling her retarded. Not at all. I apologize, it was not my intent.
Further, if I misremember Beck’s description of herself (my recollection of her self-description is where I got the sense she was the not-at-all-retarded-version-of-the T-word), I apologize for that as well.
It’s an Alot.
From this old thread where the smarter posters all agree with me.And I didn’t even post in that one.
And here is the story of the Alot, originally linked to by Machine Elf.
But you said he could do it if he wanted to. Maybe you could ask to have it renamed.
You have nothing to apologize for.
I was curious about that! I was wondering if it was okay to make one thread made of dozens of posts about my gambling experiences. I was going to name it “The Degen Diaries”. Good thing I decided against it? I am thinking about starting a different kind of thread in the future though, but it will talk about factual things instead of stories. Casino secrets that can influence your wins/losses.
I don’t mind Beck’s posts for the most part. I do mind when she acts all Karen-y. On three separate occasions she has accused me of having a gambling addiction, in so many words. On the third time, she flat out told me that I needed to go to Gambler’s Anonymous. Nowhere have I ever mentioned having a gambling addiction. I have a lifestyle that involves more gambling than the average person, and I reap several benefits due to my involvement. I’m an educated gambler, and I have not thrown away my life. This is not some vice. Beck acts like it is though. I explained my style of gambling in my very first thread. The degenerate part has more to do with my behavior, inside and outside the casino, than my gameplay. I explained that in my first thread also.
This may be junior modding (and I will happily accept a slap-down moderator note if it is), but I think this is an ATMB question. Yes, it is a logical outgrowth of this thread, but it’s a different topic. My advice: post a question in ATMB and see what happens.
Let’s throw Beck in the quarry.
This really is a snapshot of Dopers at their worst. I like and respect you all, and this is really unbecoming.
I’ve learned to just ignore.
It’s a mess when there’s a legitimate beef, but everybody wants to give our opinion on it, and it becomes a pile-on just due to numbers. When someone posts something boneheaded, it gets called out, but when it’s called out by 50 people and each time the person denies posting something boneheaded and gets called out 50 more times, it becomes a mess.
But anyone posting boneheaded posts is going to be called out on it. Should it have been in a non-Pit forum? Idk.
Thanks for a kind and respectful replay; I was afraid I was going to get a response with an invitation to eat a bag of hairy dicks or something.
I do get it. It’s just one of the very few aspects of our group dynamic that I could live without. Unless I dislike the person too 
What fun would a lock-step, unvarying group dynamic be? This thread has all kinds of commentary - from accusations, cruelty, and persecution complexes, to nuance and wit, to defensiveness, to kindness, to humor … well, you name it, it is probably here.
Personally I could do without some of it. I hate it when people descend into spitefulness, picking on Arkansas (that’s really low), super-defensiveness and self-pity, and so on.
But hey. What I’d like to see, more than anything else, is a sense of perspective for all of us. This is just a message board. Enjoy it. Squabble, argue, laugh, whatever. Be a bit of an asshole if you can’t help yourself. That’s part of the fun. Be illogical if you like, just expect other posters to call you out on it, because they will.
But if you find it raising your blood pressure or causing you to think sad, angry thoughts … back off. Don’t read it, don’t post it, if you aren’t amused or bemused by it, or at least somehow enriched by it. Life’s too short.
non-standard, proscribed means some people use it and we can’t stop them. We’re documenting it, but it’s still wrong.
And yes, I know you disagree. You’ve made that clear in many threads.
Oh, so you’ve seen the hotdish recipe, then.