He didn’t threaten me. He didn’t say he would hurt me. It was just a thought in the back of my mind that I was alone in the woods with a man who kept trying to undress me when I didn’t want him to.
I wasn’t fighting him off during sex. I just decided that giving in might be my better option. So is that changing my mind? I don’t know and still wonder about it. I wasn’t traumatized, or terrified and I still don’t know what to call it.
But from his point of view “no” didn’t mean “no”. He could be one of the guys posting about this girl who said “no” but he talked her into a “yes” with no idea of what happened from her point of view.