I admire a man/woman who knows what their convictions are and stands up for them no matter what the opposition might be. You have more then shown your belief in The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints and you have shared your beliefs with everyone here on the SDMB who cared to read them. That is something not many people would do so openly and adamantly.
Since Rico brought my attention to the Is there something odd about the Elizabeth Smart case? thread, I’ve been observing your interactions in that thread, the Ask the Mormon thread and the I’ve got the Mormon wedding blues thread.
As admirable as it can be to see a man stand up for the Church and share his beliefs openly, I have made some observations that I find very disturbing. And I need to get them off my chest.
A common thread that runs through each of the patterns I’ve seen of yours is all vs. nothing aka black vs. white. There’s no room for gray in your interactions.
For example, I have seen a pattern which you’ve repeated over and over wherein you will give someone positive praise or credit when they say something that supports something you have said, but as soon as that person says something you don’t agree with, the wording you choose is not one that conveys your disagreement, but more along the lines of totally discounting that doper of having any intrinsic value to you as a human being any longer. The method you do that by is by telling them they are wrong.
One example of this is taken from the E. Smart thread: Monty: 3-20-2003 at 8:00 PM.
Which brings me to the next item. And I totally admit, I am being nitpicky bringing this one up, but I am including it because it is connected with your discounting other doper’s opinions and I’ll explain how in a little bit.
This quote is also taken from the E. Smart thread: Monty 3-21-2003 at 6:12 am.
Monty, Making accusations about other doper’s motives in the comments they make results in not only are you discounting their right to their beliefs, just as much as you have the right to yours, but in doing so, you discount them as a Child of God who has a brain and the Free Agency to use it, believing what they choose to believe. It also makes you sound very juvenile instead of engaging in a mature debate.
I’m wondering how long you’ve been a member of the Church. It’s sounding to me that either you are very young or not very experienced in the Church yet. It’s not my place to ask how long you’ve been a member, your level of experience or your age and not everyone would fall into one category based on those demographics alone. It’s just something that’s been tugging at me all through your posts. Perhaps it would make it more understandable if I knew you are a young man just coming into his own or if you are a fairly recent convert.
There comes a point where sharing the Gospel and standing up for your beliefs steps over the boundary into (as best said by CrazyCatLady in the Mormon Wedding blues thread):
Bro. Monty it is my opinion, and the opinion of some others that I’ve seen, you have indeed stepped over the thin line between standing up for your belief and testifying to it into the land of pretentiousness, perhaps expecting to see discrimination so that you respond to a perceived discrimination against the LDS church where there is none intended.
The dreaded land of religious discrimination is where well meaning members have gotten bogged down in when they unintentionally give the Church a bad name, leaving a bad taste in other people’s mouths because of how vehemently they feel the need to defend the Church and their beliefs at all costs in all situations. I’m sure it’s difficult for someone to see it when they are there. That’s why I’m pointing it out to you in as gentle as a manner as possible.
I looked up your posts for the past one week:
In the past one week, 20 threads
BBQ Pit: Threads: 10
Posts by OP: 47
Posts by Monty: 78
GD: Threads: 4
Post by OP: 9
Posts by Monty: 46
GQ: Threads: 6
Posts by OP: 13
Posts by Monty: 12
How I interpret those statistics, Monty is a man who likes to express his opinions, likes to debate, defend, and even argue positions he has an interest in. You also have an interest in many areas. These are all good things, but, Bro. M I think you are out of control. When you have so many more posts then the OP, thy mouth runneth over.
Take a deep look at yourself and see where you’ve gotten mired in the dreaded land of religious discrimination and pull yourself out. When you get yourself out, you won’t have to yell so loud or so much to be heard; you won’t feel like you have to defend so desperately and life will be better for you.
No malice or ill will intended but as Will Shakespeare once said:
Thank you very much for stepping in; please close the door on your way out.