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Do you think you would have fallen in love with A if you had met in a chat room format that didn’t include sex?
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Yes, certainly. If we’d met in a situation that was devoted to, say, motorcycle repairs, the end result would have been the same. The fact that neither of us is interested in motorcycle repairs is as irrelevant as the fact that we share the same sexual tastes. It says a lot about human nature that so many of the responses in this thread have focussed entirely on sex as a motivation rather than as a coincidence. To be honest, I’m very pissed off about that, and disappointed about that attitude - I thought that SMDB members generally would have had more intelligence. A lot of people have let themselves down in this regard. But your question is a good one, and deserves a good answer.
Put it another way. I assume (for the sake of argument) that you’ve fallen in love yourself. With that assumption, did the location and setting of your initial meeting have any bearing on your feelings as the relationship developed? It’s a rhetorical question, designed to deflect people’s assumptions that sex must always be the primary motivator.
AHunter3, yes, the OP question has been answered, as best it could be by the limitations of a message board format. I don’t intend to discuss our relationship any further - it’s too personal and intense, and it’s strictly between ourselves from now on. In a sense, I regret starting this thread; I was in a very confused situation, and just needed to be told the obvious, regardless of what action I took … and I’d hoped for impartial responses. Thanks to those who understood that.
From now on, I’m only going to respond to general questions about online relationships, and I’ll mention that I’m no newbie. I’ve been in several online relationships before, but nothing at all like this. Z and A are in love with one another, and this is not uncommon in online relationships - Second Life, email, IRC, AIM, YIM, BBS, whatever. Both Z and A know what it’s like to be in love with someone you’ve met physically. It’s the same, guys, even if you want to doubt it. Be careful out there!
Oh, and I’ll add one more thing before I stop talking about this particular relationship. This woman is absolutely fucking gorgeous, mentally, physically, everything. She’s my best friend, my soulmate, my all-consuming passion, and I’d rather suffer not being able to know her better than to have never known her at all.
For those who are still thinking in terms of live chickens shoved up arses, I’ll put it more simply - this woman is “HOT”! (I’ve put it in capitals and quotes and a word of three letters so you can read it more easily). Sorry to all those who can’t think without their genitals, but you might find out for yourselves on day - offline or online - that sex isn’t everything in a relationship, however hilarious you might find it, and how much you wish it to be so.
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Just out of curiosity, what does it mean to “have sex” in Second Life? Isn’t Second Life a video game? Do characters have cartoon sex? Do people actually believe they are having “relationships” with these video game characters? That’s heartbreaking.
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It’s a lot more than you suppose, Dio, and very difficult to describe without your trying it yourself. You see, the woman I’m crazily in love with isn’t a “video game character” - she’s a real person. If there weren’t real people behind the Second Life characters - for example, if it were a single-player game - then yes, it would be pretty pointless.
Most of it’s done in words and voice anyway; the animations of Second Life just make it easier to become close to one another. No, it’s not a substitute for meeting someone face-to-face. But yes, it’s quite easy to become extremely involved with someone, at a very deep and true level, and Z and A are by now means groundbreakers in this particular field.
