I’m a straight man who thought it was just generally agreed upon that cunnilingus is a much easier task than fellatio. I was shocked to learn that some of my women friends think otherwise.
So I’m here to say that I believe pleasing a woman orally is a relatively easy (and always enjoyable) task. I don’t envy people who have to deal with the sucking, head motion, gagging, splashing, spitting, etc. involved in fellatio.
What do you think? Some possible directions: what you’re familiar with, physical demands, how important a good knowledge base is.
Input from bisexual people will be particularly valued.
While I enjoy both acts very much, I have to say that fellatio is more difficult for the reasons you stated in the OP, though I can’t say I’ve had any “splashing or spitting” experience
Maybe the fact that I started with a knowledge base for cunnilingus -being female I know what I like which makes it easier to know how to please another woman- makes it seem easier.
Well, now I don’t believe there’s a factual answer, so it’s likely a good thing you posted this in IMHO instead of GQ or GD.
It all depends on your ability and patience, your partner’s mood, sensitivity, and lots of other factors.
I can’t say I have ever considered either to be particularly difficult. If you enjoy what you’re doing, I don’t think the word difficult enters into the picture.
From a straight woman’s perspective,IMHO, fellatio is not difficult. Spitting and splashing have never been issues for me, and if both participants are in comfortable positions and in no hurry, it’s all really good.
What about the dreaded “blower’s cramp” that too often ends my fun prematurely. It’s often been described to me as a “lockjaw” type feeling. Is that an indication that something is being done wrong?
Obviously it depends on all sorts of variables, but I think in general cunnilingus is more difficult.
This is simply because of the shape and, um, protusion of a penis. It’s not very hard to get at, unless it’s unnaturally short.
On the other hand, cunnilingus can require a bit of burrowing of one’s face between legs.
I admit that I’m not at all experienced in any of these sorts of things. If anyone would like to assist me in some research into these matters (in the name of science!) please let me know.
It can’t be as subjective as everyone here thinks it is. While I’ve only performed one of the tasks, from the amount of complaints I’ve heard, fellatio is more difficult hands down. In addition to the perils mentioned in the OP, there’s blower’s cramp and the taste of the final product. The later can apparently be fowl enough (from some guys) to make the recipient gag.
Ahh, blower’s cramp. The cause? Out of shape jaw muscles - probably from lack of practice. The benefit of putting up with it? Cheekbones to die for. (Not to mention my honey’s undying gratitude.)
I conducted a quick phone poll among my friends - and had each of them make a few calls, as well. And they called two friends, and they called… well, you get the idea. My work day has been completely derailed, but I am proud to announce …
The results of the Late Afternoon Highly Unreliable Grass Roots Sexual Practices Phone Poll are in!
It’s harder to work on the opposite sex because you’re less familiar with the territory.
All that effort, you’d think it would have been a little more earth-shattering. Sorry.
A guy can be straight & do both of these. First he can do cunninlingus on a woman & fellatio on himself & compare. Won’t say where i learned that one though. VBG
I think a blow job is at least more labor-intensive, if not more difficult. I have TMJ and my hubby’s thingy is very wide, which makes it more of a pain for me. Chicks are a piece of cake, though.
As someone who does both, as often as I can find a willing partner, I have to say cunnilingus. Why? Men are easy. God bless them, they are fun, but if nothing else works, suck as hard as you can and they are happy. Yes there is the threat of lockjaw, but usually that’s a size issue, not technique. Small mouth plus huge penis equals discomfort, but hey… that’s why I have hands and other equipment.
Girls? Oh… pack a lunch cuz you’ll be there for a while if you want to do it right. Lube, pressure, speed, top or bottom of tounge, angle, side to side, up and down, direct or indirect, sucking or not, blah blah blah… These are all subtle things that women need if you really want to be good. Get one category wrong and it might not work.
Personally, I’ve never not been able to get a guy off with fellatio (although all guys say that they can’t with just that… go figure), but girls are a challenge, which makes it fun! That’s why when we find a great tongue, we keep it as long as we can!!!
Well, there is a difference between a good blowjob and just any ol’ blowjob, although a bad blowjob is better than no blowjob.
“Suck as hard as you can”? I disagree with this. That’s like saying good cunnilingus is simply burying your head and rubbing your tongue as fast as you can against the clitoris. That’s silly. You’ve mentioned girls, so you’ve noticed this too. I think it’s true that men generally aren’t as picky, but just from personal experience, I’ve been with girls who were very mechanical with their blowjobs, who grew up thinking it’s simply a matter of bobbing back-and-forth, and that’s it. These were just boring blowjobs. On the other hand, there’s a gentler approach which brings a more mind-blowing orgasm. (At least for me. Like women, ever man has his own preference.) Personally, I prefer a slow start, nuzzling the testicles, good use of hands, concentrate on the glans and in particular that spot on the underside of the head which is the source of our pleasure. Then gradually increase speed. For me, it doesn’t haven’t to be faster bobbing, but handspeed is just as well. I’m one of those guys who prefers oral sex to regular sex (in general) and I always get off much quicker this way.
To answer the OP, though, I think physically a BJ is more exhausting, but cunnilingus is a bit more of a challenge.
I’d have to say that cunnilingus is more difficult to perform properly. Women are so individual in their tastes and needs in the oral department. More importantly more patience and attention is required IMO. Different techniques for different women. A favoured technique will probably have two different results with two different women.
Men on the other hand seem to be satisfied pretty easily. Perhaps it’s somethign to do with the fact that orgasms are heavily mental.
The number of women out there who claim to be good at giving head is pretty staggering but - as I’ve stated before - I think it’s more of a case of judging themselves byt the fact that their partner reached climax. Yet how many women are out there claiming that they meet few men who are good at giving head to them?
Which is physically harder. Probably fellatio. Which is harder to perform well? Cunnilingus.
They’re both nigh impossible unless you’ve bathed recently, people. Girls, you get musk too, so please freakin’ wash or I’m not gonna be there for more than about 20 seconds or I will not enjoy myself because I’ll feel like I am SUFFOCATING!!! Guys too…I love to give head and everything, but only if your gross musk molecules aren’t ripping the oxygen from my air.
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A bit closer to the OP…cunnilingus is DEFINITELY more difficult. “Ow! Too hard! Too soft! Wrong side! No teeth! More teeth!” GAAAAAAAAAAAHHHH!!!
Sorry, I didn’t mean to make blow-jobs sound so dull in my previous drunken post. Yes, there is a lot more to them than just playing a hoover. Some men like the “use the back of my tongue to squeeze it to the roof of my mouth,” repeat as necessary, some like different things. But with men everything is right in the open for oral and digital manipulation. Once I figured out to cover my teeth with my lips…it’s not been too daunting a task. Women are built differently, so even finding the clitoris on some can be a challenge in itself. Then figuring out what and how she likes it…cunnilingus is more difficult.
For the record…I like it low and slow, light to medium pressure, with some underside of the tongue flips thrown in to break things up. If I really like it, I’ll freeze then grind myself on your tongue(which means, don’t stop, don’t change what you’re doing… RIGHT THERE!)[sub]in case anyone’s keeping notes[/sub]
Another slight hijack here, but there are few things as erotic and satsifying as gazing up the length of my SO’s body and seeing that utterly blissed-out look that comes over her face when everything is coming together just right. Man, oh man. How I love that. I’m a man who takes pride in his work.
I think a research study is in order. We should all meet at a centralized location and experiment. We can have men and women of different sizes and preferences lie back while others do a taste test to determine which is more or less difficult. Then the tasters and the tastees can switch.
Seriously, difficult? How can oral sex ever be DIFFICULT? Unless you’re not getting enough, that is. I enjoy both. And I don’t think it’s a strict gender split. I think some men can be harder to please than others, and some women can be harder to please than others. But as far as whether it’s an innie or an outie, I say, it’s even Steven (or Stephanie).
