This time he offers up a few bits of wisdom on adoption:
I suppose this is nothing new coming from him. Just sickens me that some people apparently still take this clown seriously.
Does this mean he’s coming around on abortion?
Just keep the receipt, I always say.
I haven’t watched the video, but based on the quotes I’d say that Pat Robertson, while an asshole of the highest order, is probably right about guys being reluctant to date a woman with three adopted “ethnic” kids, and has a fair point that it’s hard to know what foreign adoptees went through before they were adopted. I’m sure he said these things in the most sneering, condescending way possible, but they don’t sound like his usual complete untruths like “Katrina was God’s punishment” or whatever.
Now I’m off to have a four-hour Silkwood shower and I pray that’s the closest I EVER come to defending that camera-mugging piece of regurgitated dogshit again in my lifetime.
Well, my favorite part is when he says
because isn’t the idea of taking on somebody else’s problems kind of a thing in Christianity? Jesus could suffer and die for our sins, but dating a lady with adopted kids is too much work or something.
I hope his ‘dear friend’ drowned that little Colombian bastard in a bathtub. That’s what Jesus would have done.
Robertson is actually correct about adopted kids. My daughter’s best friend in grade school was adopted from Columbia, and while a sweet kid did turn out to have behavioral problems. (His brother, also adopted, didn’t.) But you’d think that a so-called Christian would say how wonderful it was for someone to give kids the kind of a chance they never would have had if they hadn’t been adopted.
I’d say the guy is a Satanist, but I don’t think Satan is that bad.
To be fair, Pat is trying to explain why an eligible fella might balk at the prospect of a single lady with adopted kids…
To which, no explanation should be necessary.
Pat Robertson’s brand of Christianity: Hate and fear everyone (except who Pat tells you), help no one (except who Pat tells you), send money to Pat so he can keep telling you who to hate and fear. Rinse and repeat. It is so complicated trying to understand who to hate and fear, why not let Pat do that for you?
On the scale of Pat Robertson assholery, I’m going to give this one a 3 (out of 10.) After 9/11, I saw him with a beautiful, huge relief map of Iraq pointing out where we should be dropping the nukes. That was an 11 on the PRA scale.
Maybe he should be an advice columnist like Dear Abby instead. I agree that he is correct on this issue. Existing biological kids are bad enough in the dating world but adopted ones, especially from the 3rd world, are a kiss of death. That is her personal life choice and she is probably going to have to go through alone to the exclusion of lots of things other people can do. She probably should have figured that out on her own however. It is pretty obvious.
The woman asking the question explicitely mentioned that men rejected her when realizing that there was no child support coming (since they don’t have a known biological father)
So, the original issue wasn’t solely about the kids being foreign born, but also (mainly?) about finances and having to support those kids.
Biological kids can turn out to have behavioral problems too. There’s no guarantee either way. I’m not sure how this anecdote makes PR correct.
Robertson is an evil douchebag, obviously. But he is right in this case. If Angelina Jolie was a normal looking, non-rich actress, do you think guys would want to date her?
I don’t know if there’s really a “correct” answer here. The statement “adopted kids from foreign countries may be more prone to behavioral problems than children raised by their biological parents” should not necessarily lead directly to “run away quickly and don’t look them directly in the eyes lest you be infected.” In fact, I see two different questions here: should a man date a woman with three kids is one, but it’s completely different from should a man date a woman with adopted kids as opposed to kids she bred and birthed. Seriously, if the answer there is supposed to be that the kids she bred and birthed are guaranteed to be free of defect or poor behavior, I say ha.
Hey, on re-reading Robertson’s remarks, I found my second-favorite part!
Well, that’s pretty conclusive evidence there! The kid grew up weird! Can you imagine having to deal with that, a weird kid.
Well, I see normal-looking, non-rich single parents dating and even marrying all the time, so I guess the answer here is yes.
I’m more concerned that this woman thought asking Pat Robertson for dating advice was a smart idea. If I had to guess, such cluelessness is why she’s having problems with the opposite sex, not the Columbian kids.
And that is an extremely valid concern. Lots of people with kids get divorced and remarried. The big difference is that their other parent is usually still around to help pay the bills and spend time with them. If you go out with a woman with three adopted kids, it is pretty clear that you will immediately start to become their parent as well because they don’t have a father. It is worse than dating someone with a biological child who has another deceased or deadbeat parent. At least their are biological dividing lines between the parents and others there. It would just be a free-for-all in this case and very few men would want any part of it. It was all her that did it. Any potential partners didn’t even get to go through the adoption process with her.
Those third-world kids are like beanie babies to some people as well. You know they won’t just stop at two or three. They are going to try to find a way to get more. It sounds bad but I have a third-world child collector in my family and she wants all of us to start collecting them now that she is too old to be allowed any more. I try to be as nice as possible when trying to explain that not everyone is interested in them like she is.
Assuming a bit here, aren’t we? Even the thirdest third world countries don’t hand over babies to just any foreigner. She’s presumably got enough of her own money to look after the kids.
It wasn’t Laura Ingraham phoning in was it?
I don’t know the numbers, but my old town, which was quite well off, had a substantial number of adopted kids, and I’d say 80% had behavioral problems. It is not surprising - some suffered from malnutrition as babies, some had fetal alcohol syndrome. Healthy babies from good parents don’t go up for adoption as a rule.
However my other daughter’s best friend was adopted from Korea, and she had no mental problems (to put it mildly!) and the only behavioral problem she had was that she had to try to keep from eating too much, since she remembered being hungry as a baby.
None of which doesn’t mean he isn’t a twit. But it is something that those who adopt should be aware of.