To answer a few questions:
Yes, my pants still fit. However, from prior experience, I can gain quite a bit before they start to feel tight – if I’m paying attention I might notice after a 10 pound weight gain, I definitely will by 15. However, I don’t want to start a diet at 15 pounds overweight when I could have done so when only 5 pounds overweight, presuming I should attempt to diet at all. (That is, the gain is fat and not muscle.)
I’ve tried tape measures, too, but aside from the issues of really getting an accurate measure (half an inch closer to the waist or the hips can change the circumference measurement by half an inch or more, so am I seeing actual weight loss/gain, or did I move the tape relative to last time?), I have no idea what normal fluctuations are in terms of full stomach vs. empty, bloat, water retention, or whatever.
I can’t say that weight gain has ever been a goal of mine. I want to look fit and reasonably toned, and basically, not be dumpy or fat. I started out at a good weight for my height, doing cardio only, I just lacked any regular muscle strengthening/toning exercise so my arms looked kind of flabby. My only other goal is a reasonable amount of strength; I basically just don’t want my body to get in the way of itself. I’m not looking to become some sort of muscle-bound bodybuilder. I’m in reasonably good shape at the moment, but if I’m declining I want to nip that in the bud before it gets any worse. Hence the whole “is this muscle or fat” thing. If it’s a reasonable amount of muscle to have gained over a year, I’m not going to stress over 5 pounds. If I’m gaining fat, I probably need to figure out what in hell is going on and do something about it… and again, it’s easier to lose 5 pounds than 15.
What do I look like naked? Unfortunately I don’t have a full-length mirror, plus being a bit freaked about the weight gain hasn’t helped in being able to make a certain, objective determination of “how I look.” Sometimes I think my tummy looks normal. Sometimes I’m convinced it’s bigger than it used to be. See above regarding measuring to be sure. I do, definitely, have much more definition in the upper-arm and shoulder muscles, however.
Re: mass vs. weight… since I’m not actually planning to weigh myself on the moon, I think it’s okay if I think of this in terms of how much I weigh on a planet with 1G of gravity, since that’s really the only context my body is going to be in.
Also, I think the common understanding of the parlance is that an equal volume of muscle weighs more than the same volume of fat. Saying “one pound equals one pound” is kind of a weird thing to get hung up on (of course it does… one pound of feathers equals one pound of bricks, too, but that’s still a lot more feathers than bricks), when the meaning of the phrase has been a part of common understanding for decades.