It’s too late now, but you could head others off at the path by ‘blocking’ certain people you don’t ever want to be friends with. This way, they won’t even be able to find your account and presume you don’t have one.
(This is also useful for exes)
I guess it depends on your relationship to your family members. All my nieces and nephews (and my kids, except the one who is too young to have an account) are on with my siblings and me. Siblings and I are in our early 50s; kids are anywhere from late teens to early 30s. None of us “oldsters” comment judgmentally on the kids and for the most part, they don’t post anything outrageous. But it they did, public comment wouldn’t be the way to go. My younger daughter is probably the worst of them, playing out the teenage drama for all to see. But she’s been called on that privately, not just by me, but by her older sisters and cousins.
Do what they said above, or friend her. She will post things for about a week, then most likely never go on there again. At least that has been my experience, most older people (I am older damn it too) only get on to see what all the fuss is about, then post a bit, then you never see or hear from them again. I have many of my face book friends do just that. How old is your aunt? Many of the people I am talking about are at least 50 or older and were high school friends and I am sure my name pops up so they friend me. We talk for a week and I swear they never come back! I must be pretty damn boring!
Or as stated above just create a page she can see limited stuff and she will get bored with your boring life real fast.
Why is it that some people feel the need to post lots of profanity, and generally make asses of themselves on Facebook. I’m not a prude, but do you talk like that generally in public? Facebook is a public forum, regardless of how much privacy you’ve set. If that’s you then let your flag fly and not worry what your aunts see. But if that’s just your Facebook persona…I just don’t get it.
Posting profanity doesn’t make an ass out of anyone. It’s how many people talk when they aren’t at work.
You sound pretty prudish to me.
I know several of my son’s friends. In person they’re pretty normal teenagers. But when I look at what they post on facebook, they sound like rapper wannabee’s: F----n’ this, N-gg- this, Biatch that. I asked my son if they talk like that when they are just haning out, and I believe him when he says they don’t. His only explanation, is they want to sound cool. :rolleyes:
That’s what I mean by being an ass, and no I’m not prudish.
I don’t facebook family, period. I have told my mother this, and my brother, sister-in-law, etc. Facebook is where I keep in touch with friends is a 100% family-free environment. It’s just that simple.
I’ve had this as well. What you do-- put friends into separate lists. Then when you post something you click the little lock icon to limit who sees that individual post. Voila, “My Relatives” list doesn’t have to know what I’m drinking and how badly I want to kneecap Roy Blunt.
You need to learn the secret of Time and Place young Grasshopper. Foul language should be spared for certain occasions. When used in this way it retains it’s full power. Generally speaking, swearing around older relatives is rarely the right Time and Place regardless of whether or not they use similar language themselves.
I’ll echo the other posters. First I don’t get the need to censor what they see. They’re unlikely to care about minor transgressions and anything major they’ll find out about via the other family members anyway so whatever. It’s silly to believe that Facebook is in any way private, even if everything works perfectly and only the people you want see the things you want them to see, they can still go around blabbing to other people.
If you really feel uncomfortable giving them full access then don’t. Just give them the limited access and tweak it to suit.
Friend them, stop posting, and accept that Facebook as you knew it is over. Go wank off to some porn or something.
I agree with this and should the day ever come when I get a friend on Facebook I will immediately judge every action, waiting, just waiting for him to slip, then it’s OUT OF THE WILL…
Yeah just think how much sadder you’ll be without my Debbie Gibson CDs, WITH extra bonus tracks only available in Japan.
I think you may be setting yourself up for trouble in the future. If you are posting things you don’t want your parents to see, then you are likely also posting things you don’t want future employers to see.
And they will see it.
Take stock of how you are presenting yourself in public, and whether you might someday wish you had been more discreet. . .
It’ s been about six years since I hired anyone without googling their name first, and the very first hits I see are usually the facebook account. . .
That is possible but it isn’t automatically true. I mean, people should be careful of this, in general. But I don’t think my future employers will care too much when I post that I think my mom is acting super-crazy this week.
My mom might feel differently. The fact that I don’t want my parents to see my FB page has nothing to do with it being profane (I’m almost absurdly G-rated).
I don’t facebook with family because I don’t care to be psychoanalyzed or gossiped about regarding every bullshit thought I share with my friends. My parents and I are on a strictly need-to-know basis.
You’re right, that’s not a problem; and I totally relate!
You’re engaging in potentially unethical behavior. Stay out of your employees’ personal lives.
From Online vetting - Wikipedia Legal experts have warned human resources departments about vetting prospective employees online, due to the possibility of discrimination and the unreliability of this information.
From http://stephendale.amplify.com/2010/09/09/germany-to-prohibit-employers-from-using-social-networking-sites/: According to the draft German Law, employers will be able to use accessible information from the internet to “background” search potential applicants, but will be prohibited from using information obtained from social networking sites used for “communication purposes”, such as Facebook which we are told is specifically cited as an example. The law is intended to establish a balance between the legitimate interests of employers against the protection of the employee’s personal data.
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