Last weekend, my boyfrined of about 18 months quit smoking. While I knew that he didn’t like being smoker, I didn’t know he was going to quit. I didn’t get to see him last weekend and becasue he was alone, he took the big step and went cold turkey.
He’s been smoke free for a week and was a bit crazy for a few days, but has so far been successful and I am proud of him for it.
I am still a smoker and have been for about 25 years. I do have high blood pressure and I realize that smoking is bad for me, but for some reason, I can’t talk myself into wanting to quit. Without wanting to quit, I am pretty sure that I will not be successful.
So, this weekend, I went to his house and he asked me to smoke outside, which I respected and did. When I came back in, he was telling my how good the cigarette smelled.
Later, when he went to kiss me, he didn’t like the taste, although I brushed my teeth first and I can’t really say I liked that taste of pasta on his breath either.
This all may sound stupid, but I don’t know how to adjust to his quitting. And I don’t want him to start again either. We both used to smoke when we talked, or watched movies. We would smoke after sex and have some really good conversations. Last night, I went out for a cigarette and he fell asleep by the time I came back in.
For me, smoking has been a long time habit, associated with relaxation and being social, it seems to help me clear my head and focus, all of my co-workers are smokers, most of my friends are smokers.
Does anyone have any advice on either helping me adjust to my boyfriend quitting or maybe how to make myself want to quit? Scare tactics don’t work, I’ve seen the pictures of lungs and all those things.