I am so sorry for your loss Eva_Luna. May his memory be a blessing to you and his other friends and family.
May this also be yet another lesson for us all to keep pushing against health insurance and doctors to find out what is really wrong when you don’t feel or look right.
May his memory be a blessing.
My condolences to you, and to your family, Eva.
I’m so sorry for your loss.
{{{Eva_Luna}}}.
Eva_Luna, speaking from experience, take all the time off you want. And this may sound odd, but you are going to need all your strength, so eat enough and get some sleep. Even if it’s junk food or casseroles brought in, or a fast food burger. I am so sorry you have lost your dad.
Baker is so right. When my mother passed away I found sleep impossible and was definitely not eating. After about three days of that I couldn’t think straight and luckily DH began to push me to sleep and eat. It doesn’t take long for that to make the bad, worse.
Oddly enough, this is the 6th Anniversary of my Dad’s passing, also on Mother’s Day. My parents had a horrible divorce and I was at my mom’s house when I found out. I told Mom that he got his final “fuck you” by dying on her day.
Oh, I think only gastrointestinal illness would ever make me lose my appetite! No worries there. The sleep part? We’ll see. Tom_Scud just made fish and pasta and broccoli rabe for dinner, and I suspect there may be more prepared food and takeout in our near future. And definitely, once I get to NJ, no worries there - no proper Jewish life cycle observance would be without 10 times as much food as anyone could possibly eat.
Both when my mom and my dad died we also had more than we could use. My mom used to give paper towels, disposable plates and tableware, styrofoam cups, and such, so folks wouldn’t have to do dishes.
You have my condolences. Please try not to worry about the people at work (unless you do want the distraction); they’ll figure it out, and at least the ones who have been through it will understand. I tried going to work after my mom died, and I ended up bursting into tears the fourth time someone offered me condolences - not at all my style, and totally unexpected. I’ll be thinking of you.
I am so sorry for your loss - you should take as much time off work as you need. If work is a distraction, then see what you can manage to do, and if your brain is total mush then tell your employer that you can’t function.
They are sure to understand that your head is totally all over the place - I lost my mum 3 years ago, and I remember feeling utterly adrift immediately afterwards. I couldn’t have worked effectively so I didn’t even try. It wasn’t until after the funeral that I started to get a grip on things again, almost as if the funeral was real closure for me, and that’s when I could start picking up the pieces.
You have to do what works for you, but I would urge you to keep in touch with your boss even if it’s only by text/email just so they know how you’re coping.
My condolences for your loss.
No one can tell you how you must behave. Take care of yourself and let others help.
I am sorry for your loss.
My deepest condolences, hon! I know it hurts. 
I’m so sorry to hear that. What a shock it must be.
I’m so sorry for your loss. I hope you got to spend some time with him.
I lost my mother about a year ago. It was like a perfect storm of circumstances. Had a series of “minor” strokes about 10 years ago that basically paralyzed her on one side. The day after Easter last year she wasn’t feeling well so my father took her to the hospital. Tests and blah blah blah turns out she had a massive kidney stone that she should have felt a really long time ago but because of the strokes on that side of her body, she couldn’t. She never saw another Sunday. Died of sepsis the next Saturday morning. I got to the hospital literally 5 minutes too late.
Oh that is awful. So sorry for that as well.
So sorry, @Eva_Luna 
My dad died earlier this year. Let me echo what others have said in that you need to take care of yourself. And let people help you. Other people are sad for you, and for the loss of your dad, and they want to help, so let them. Even work. I have a small business where I am literally 50% of the company and my business partner and clients managed for a month while I was dealing with stuff.
I’m the sort of person who takes care of everything. I decided that during this time I was going to let people take care of things, and take care of me. Everyone showed up and showed out. It was amazing and their help and support is what carried me through the worst times. I just had to let go a bit and let their love for me and my family take over.
Elders and females get medically marginalized, I had reproductive system issues from puberty onwards [PCOS is a hellish condition especially when combined with endometriosis] lost one ovary to cancer in 94, and by the time my damned doctor managed to get things sorted, my remaining ovary was a 20 cm mass of lipoma, terratoma and the ovary itself that had its own little tumor sprouting off the side [adenocarcinoma I think, I would have to dig out paperwork for best accuracy] There is NO reason with as more or less quick and freaking easy a CT scan, or even a basic ultrasound is that they can’t pry open the purse strings and check when one has been complaining about bleeding out of ones cootchie for 10 solid freaking months ending up with freaking anemia.
I hope that your father’s memory is a blessing for you, and you keep good memories in the front of your heart.
I’m so sorry, @Eva_Luna.