My dad came to visit me with his new wife a couple of weeks ago. He never referred to her by name at all…called her “honey” and referred to her either as “your new mom” or “my wife.” My brother and I decided he was worried about calling her by the wrong name. Maybe your dad should start referring to her by title rather than name to avoid any further such mishaps? Then again, I’d hate thinking my SO (if I had one) couldn’t remember my name.
My first wife died more than 10 years ago and I have been remarried for 6 years, and I still make that mistake sometimes. If your father’s fiancee loves him she will understand.
Others have pointed out that old habits die hard. That is especially true of those close to the heart.
I sure hope it’s not a sign of Alzheimer’s - I’m not even close to 50 yet.
My mom calls me Ray-Kyla quite a lot. (My younger sister is named Rachel.) I usually answer “What, Da-Mom?”
For a long time, she addressed me with her younger sister’s name, which always struck me as particularly weird because my aunt and I don’t look at all alike. There must be something about me that just reminds her of that sister (my mom has four).
I used to think my mother was an idiot for not being able to remember my name! In fact, I thought one of my names was “dammit”, because she’d say: “Bonnie, Sharon, Donna, dammit, Norine! You knew who I was talking to!” LOL. But now, I call my kids by each other’s names all the time (I usually leave out the “dammit”, but I’ve only got three kids, she had five).
Funny anecdote in my family, my aunt Renee, the youngest of five siblings thought her name growing up was “Marthe, Helene, Guy, Daniel colisse Renee!” as my Grandmawould work he way through all their nabe to get to hers.
I have a vague and unsupported theory that your brain is so busy holding all of the other information that you know about that dear one, it drops random items and the name happens to be one of them because, jeez, why would you forget your own daughter’s name?