My mom doesn’t call him by his first name. I’m not sure if it’s like this when we’re not around them, but I think it’s kind of weird :o However my dad calls my mom by her first name.
I know… just a random thought of the day.
Does your mom call your dad by his first name or ‘dad’ ? Is it just a habit moms pick up by telling the kids, “ask your dad?” for 10+ years?
If they are addressing eachother or talking to realtives/friends/others about their spouse they will use their first names.
If they are talking to their children about the other they will refer to them as Mom/Dad.
My parents have always called each other by their first name when addressing each other directly, but referred to ‘your mother/father’ when speaking to us kids about them.
Now that us kids are now all adults, they tend to use ‘your father/mother’ interchangeably with their actual names.
My mom uses my dad’s name when she is talking to him, but will say “your dad” when talking to us. My dad, though, is funny…he always uses my mom’s first name, even when talking to us. So if I call, he might say “do you want to talk to Ann?” He says he started that on purpose because he didn’t want to end up being one of those guys who calls his wife “mother.”
The only exception to this is when he’s annoyed with her. They he will say “your mother (insert annoying thing she did here)” Like, when he’s mad at her, he’s not taking responsibility for her existance! 
When talking to me it’s always “Ask Mama” or “Ask Papa”. (Er…not that I ask them for anything now, I’m an adult.) When talking to each other, it’s always their names or super-polite respectful things.
In a (hopefully) interesting addendum, my parents always used the formal “you” in Hindi with me, even though you don’t have to use it with people younger than you. They did it so I would always default to the formal “you”, and guess what? - it worked!
Like a lot of people, my mom and dad always called each other by their first names to their face, but called each other “mom” and “dad” when speaking of each other to us.
I think my paternal grandfather called my grandmother “mother”.
My wife and I usually adress each other with nicknames - usually “Honey” - but also by our names when the kids aren’t around. When the kids are around we refer to each other (and address each other) as Mommy and Daddy (our kids are 1 and 3 years old).
My buddy’s parents refer to each other as mom and dad, I always thought it was odd when I was over their house.
(Mom) Hey Dad, do you want some more blah blah?
(Dad) Sure thing Mom.
They might have called each other mother and father instead of mom and dad at points. All of their kids are 25+. She doesn’t work and is from England, he makes good money. I thought maybe it was some odd English or servitude thing.
This is better suited to IMHO than GQ.
Colibri
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I used Mrs. Magill’s first name exclusively until Fang started calling her “Kistin”. I now call her “Mama” in front of the kids.
They occasionally call one another Grandma and Grandpa. My dad and step-mom always use names, never any term of endearment.
I dunno why this bugs me, but my mom ALWAYS refers to my dad as Dad when she mentions him in a conversation with any of the four kids. Hey we know his name is Jim, and to my ears it’s always sounded so odd that she says things like, “Dad and I did blah blah.”
To my own children, I will say “your dad and I talked last week” or “have you called your dad recently” and I do call him by his name to them. But we are divorced so maybe that’s part of it too.
My parents always called the other by their first name. Husband and I call each other by first names, but occasionally “mom” or “dad” when talking to the kids. When my son was newly able to speak, he started out calling my husband by his name, because that’s what I called him, and that’s what my daughter (not my husband’s) called him – we had to 'splain to him that “Tim” was “dad” to him, even if he was “Tim” to mom and sissy.
I have never, *ever *heard my parents call each other by name. They decided back when they were first married to always call each other an endearment (hon or dear), because it made them less likely to fight. Must’ve worked, because they’ve never had a real fight in our presence, and they’re still best of friends 35 years later. With us it was “your mother” or “your daddy.” With other people they refer to them by their first names.
My husband and I switch between endearments and first names. I tend to call him by his first name more than he does me; probably because his first name is one syllable.
My parents call each other by their first names to each other, or they say “Honey”. When they talk about each other to me, they say “Your mother” or “Your father”.
My grandpa always used to say “Mother” to my grandma whether he was talking to her alone or in front of us or anybody else. If she didn’t respond to “Mother” he’d yell “Jean! Put your hearing aid in!”
When speaking to each other they used their respective first names. When speaking to me it was Your Mom or Your Dad…
When speaking directly to him while I’m in the room, it’s dad, Jerry, or honey. When I’m not in the room I have no idea.
When speaking to me, its Dad or Father, and Mother, no “your”. My dad address my mother by her first name. I honestly can’t remember the last time I’ve heard my mom address my dad, usually ‘Dinner’ is sufficient. At other times I think she prefers to just leave him be.
Sounds kinky. Helllooo, Daddy!
Okay, I feel much better. My parents were divorced when I was two, so my mom always called him by his first name, but she always referred to him as “your dad.” My husband calls me by my first name but refers to me as “mommy” to our son.
Since my dad and I had the same first name, she would call him “honey” or “sweetie” or some similar endearment. She would, of course, refer to him by his first name when talking about him with others. I never ever heard her call him by any quasi-paternal name (though he was older than her own father).