Living oh so vicariously through this thread (and the original, may it rest in peace), and almost in tears, because it reminds me of MY life, and all of the chances I NEVER took.
Oh, well…
Have fun at the dance, Skewbald. And cherish this woman (as if you don’t already).
please nobody poop on me for asking this but:
how would the Goddess react if she knew about this thread?
notwithstanding that issue, it sounds like it’s all coming up roses and I wish you both all the best, Skew.
haardvark, what about this thread would anyone find offensive? He’s not giving away anything she asked him to keep secret – he’s talking in glowing terms about being ga-ga for her, and all the nervousness and elation that comes with it.
When I start dating someone, I tell people about it. I’m excited – I want to share. I assume the person I’m dating does the same. Why would anyone expect it to be kept secret? What is there to be ashamed of?
To me, it’s all about respect. There’s a world of difference between saying “my new girlfriend and I had sex for the first time last night and it was amazing” and “yeah, I finally nailed Stephanie last night – she’s pretty easy”. The former is me sharing my excitement over new romance, the latter is me trivializing a shared experience.
It’s OK to talk about sex. And friggin’ believe me, women talk about sex. In unbelievable detail. Their friends know everything. They might as well have a web cam on her damn forehead.
So, unless Skewbald has reason to think she wants to keep the details of their relationship private, the limits on what he talks about should be based on how comfortable he is sharing his personal life. (Skewbald, this post is only addressing haardvark’s post, and not in any way intended to influence what you do or do not feel comfortable posting about. Set your own limits. Oh, and have fun at your prom!)
GOOD LUCK MAN!! 
…but I don’t think you need luck at this point, you’re past that.
Um. I never suggested that she should or would be offended. I was only wondering how she might react.
I guess I need to say up front that like everyone else here I think this is a sweet story, that Skewbald sounds like an earnest, honest and good person, and I am rooting for him and this budding relationship in all respects. (I have never read anything so evocative of my own late teens!!)
me, too. (or, at least, I did until the wedding…)
There is nothing to be ashamed of, and if I have in some way implied that there is, then I really blew it and I am sorry.
Darned right. And I think our esteemed colleague Skewbald has the required respect, in spades.
I don’t know how you managed to pull this comment out of what I said above. I certainly was not considering whether or not women talk about sex when I posted originally. (As far as I am concerned, every feeling adult talks about sex…) For that matter, my question was not related to sex at all.
The question was provoked in me because I have been in two situations where I found out after the fact that someone I was trying to build a relationship with was bothered by the extent to which I was flapping at the mouth about said relationship (please note that this phrasing is tongue-in-cheek (need a smiley for that!) and I am not in any way trying to imply that Skewbald is blabbing inappropriately).
I was thinking that, perhaps, f’rinstance, if this lovely young lady were to trip across the boreds and see this thread and put two and two together, she could perhaps feel awkward or embarrassed about it, and if she chose to take a negative view of the situation it could be tough sledding for Skew, at least in the short term.
(quoted text blued by yours truly) Yes, giraffe, you’ve nailed my point exactly. I was only trying to point out that I hoped the story was being shared with full consideration of the other party’s feelings. To try and restate my original post in a more constructive way:
Hi, Skewbald, I love your narrative and certainly hope you keep us in the loop. I hope your inamorata is a Doper at heart and would get as much of a kick out of this thread as the rest of us are!
Hey, that goes double for me! Please don’t feel that I am judging your actions as inappropriate, because I am not. Like the rest of us, I am enjoying your story and would love to hear as much more of it as you are comfortably willing to share, and I know you would not compromise your budding relationship for the sake of the storyline. (You have already said as much yourself, in any case!)
cheers and much happiness,
'vark
Sorry, haardvark – I honestly wasn’t trying to jump on you, and my message was mostly just me throwing out my thoughts on things, not having an imaginary one-sided argument with you, despite how it looked. I should have made that more clear. Sorry 'bout that. 
The only part I actually intended to be a response to your message was the first paragraph, based on my assumption that you thought she would be offended if she read this thread. Thanks for clarifying what you meant – your point is well made.
Awwwww. What a terrifically sweet story. I want me one of them cute pajama pants wearing girls. Damn.
The frequently immense chasm between the layered memories of first love that we all carry around, and what truly transpired is being bridged with honesty, humor and tremendous sensitivity.
I’m about to turn 40. I remember my first love, so many small details- and yet what you are writing brings back nuance and subtlety of that relationship that has been lost to me for more than 20 years.
You are a great young man, and you are a gifted writer. Shower her with your humor and honesty, and enjoy wherever your friendship with her takes you. I agree with a poster in here somewhere who said that the friendship part is most important… it lasts, and lasts, and lasts.
I admire you.
Cartooniverse
…And I resolve to *become[\i] one of those pyjama pants wearing girls…flirty, self assured, and able to clue in when awkward first love approaches.
Hope you and your lady are having a great time at the dance, Skewbald!
[PSA] Also, what Dinsdale said about STD’s and pregnancy. That’s the flip side of physical love; be educated, be safe, and don’t be afraid to talk about these things with your partner. [/PSA]
Again, best wishes and thank you for sharing.
good to hear about this again…
i hope you put on “I’ll Be There for You” on the tape. bon jovi isn’t that bad really…
I can’t believe I’ve gotten hooked on a single thread. I’ve spent my lunch break each day catching up on the ongoing adventures of Skewbald. Thanks for making me feel young again for a few minutes each day.
May 1st is a holiday? HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO ME (now why did I go into work…?)
But anyways, a lot of this reminds me of how I was with my SO when we first started being friends, and later dating (we just celebrated 2 years together). SO much of this is familiar (at least emotionally - for us, we went to my sisters dance LOL).
I hope everything works out great for you two, and PLEASE keep us posted (not that I doubt you will! :))
sigh
Tell us more.
I love this thread.
Good for you, glad it worked out. I was just a little turned off by your comment about being American and saying dude and gnarly alot. We don’t say gnarly my friend, dude however does surface from time to time though. I’m just rambling on, blah blah blah.
omigod. You are so f** adorable. You actualy made
ME blush. the cuteness! will it ever end!!??
So???
How was the dance???
And why did she want you to get to her whouse 4 frigging hours before the dance???
Tell us how incredibly hot she looked.
Come on! Inquiring minds want to know!
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Skewbald, you’ve got us all hanging - fill us in!!
Yes, please fill us in! Oh, and seriously, if you didn’t at the dance: Make a serious move! You mention that you haven’t made out yet…trust me…it’s time! She’s giving you every signal. If she doesn’t want to go that far, she’ll stop you, and she won’t be mad. She’s waiting for you to throw her down, kiss her passionately for hours and start ‘exploring’ each other. Trust me…give it a shot!
Sounds like you’re having a great time…I wish you continued good luck!
arrrghhh i can’t take it much longer!!!
I’m dying to know - what happened.
the good
the bad
the ugly
Please we need to know.