I’m so sorry
Lost my first grandparent a few months ago. Tomorrow I’m moving in to her house (her house, cos it’ll never be mine), to keep grampa company.
I miss her a LOT.
Sorry, Fenris. My sympathies to you and your family.
Oh, Fenris, I am so sorry. I still cry over my granny who died ten years ago. I hope yours and mine are having a great laugh somewhere.
You have my sympathy. I’ve been there…my grandmother died about a year ago. She was an amazing person, and I’m sure yours was as well. Sorry for your loss.
I can only say the same things everyone else has. I am very sorry for your loss. I’ll remember you and your family in my prayers tonight. I’m forty-six and still have my one grandmother, in fairly good health(she’s ninety-six), but when she goes I think I will go around the bend for a while. And again, as others have said, remember the good times you were lucky enough to have. It sounds awfully trite now, but it will work later.
I am so sorry for your family’s loss, Fenris. Yeah, the funeral thing hurts, but it is important to be there for your Dad. Almost as painful as the loss of a grandparent is the vulnerability you see it create in your previously “invincible” parents.
With my deepest sympathy,
Lib
I’m sorry, Fenris.
It breaks my heart to know that someone who has brought so much laughter in to my life is hurting so badly.
You’re in my thoughts, Fenris.
Words are inadequate.
Sorry Fenris.
I’m not sure what I can add that hasn’t already been said, Fenris, but as you are one of my favourite posters here, I have to add my condolences.
I’ve been there too may times before. I can assure you that it gets better, but that’s small comfort right now, I know. Still, you and your family will be in my thoughts.
Take care.
My sincerest condolences, Fenris.
I lost my grandma (only grandparent I had) last November. She lived with us and raised me at least as much as my mom did. So I know how difficult this can be.
Please accept my condolences. I don’t know if you’re religious, but I hope it’s alright for me to say a little prayer for your family. You will be in my thoughts.
i’m sorry fenris.
may her memory be eternal.
My sympathies, Fenris.
I’m sorry, Fenris.
Having recently lost my grandmother, I understand your pain. I send you my warmest thoughts.
I wanted to thank everyone for the condolences and prayers, they’re really appreciated.
And I really wanted to thank everyone for not saying things like “Oh, the funeral provides closure. You’ll feel better for having gone” (if I hear that IRL one more time I’m gonna snap). I know you folks understand, and this rantlette is notdirected at you:[ul]
[li]Going will not make me feel better (except for the “I did the right thing by being there for my parents” feeling)[/li][li]It will not provide closure.[/li][li]It’s not something that I’ll feel better about later.[/li][/ul]
You people are great.
Thanks.
Fenris
I hope this doesn’t sound ridiculously hokey and new-agey, but I was thinking…
From what you’re saying it sounds like the ritual of a funeral doesn’t help much for you, but perhaps you can create a ritual of some kind just for yourself. For me it’s making some of my grandma’s recipes - so really, it can be anything.
Peace and strength, Fenris.
Very strange, Fenris.
I just got back from two days in Chicago to learn that my grandma just died, too. She was my last living grandparent as well.
I’m gonna be a pallbearer at her funeral Monday morning near Detroit.
I mostly feel bad for my mom (it was her mom). Seeing my mother cry ranks #1 on my List of Things I Hate.
I take some solace in the fact that the last time I talked with my grandma, it was one of the best talks we had had in years, and I felt closer to her than I had in a while.
So, obviously, my condolences go out to you.
My condolences to Fenris, Milo, and your respective families.
I hope you both have wonderful memories of your grandmas, and that when the immediate pain of your loss has diminished, those memories will have you smiling and laughing often.