This is about as mundane and pointless as it gets, folks, so if you want something more substantial, go to another forum or something.
I have been at least peripherally aware of my husband’s existence since he was about 14; this would have been in middle school. He was one grade ahead of me. He stood out because he was a total geek (way before it was cool) and he had this incredible almost-black, super-thick, super-curly hair.
When he was 15, he got a zit on his upper lip and every time he shaved, he’d cut it and it would bleed. So he stopped shaving his upper lip. By the time he was on the outer fringes of my group of friends in high school, he’d had a mustache for as long as I could remember.
He’s 50 now, and he’s been getting random silver/white hairs in his almost-black hair for years. But his 'stache has been graying at a much faster rate. It’s been pretty much 50% gray/silver for a few years now. A couple of months ago, my sister mentioned to him that he might look younger if he shaved his mustache.
My husband does not tend towards vanity except when it comes to his hair and his eyes (which are gorgeous, which is why he wears contact lenses instead of glasses).
We hadn’t seen each other in a week or two (not unusual for our schedules) and he didn’t tell me about shaving. When he walked into the hotel lobby, he was clean-shaven! Yikes. I made him kiss me right there in the lobby! I said “Do you know how long it’s been since I’ve kissed a guy who didn’t have a mustache??” Well, the answer is, about 25 years!
He really does look younger, I think. I like it. It still feels weird, though.
1.) When I shaved my beard and moustache, one of my co-workers ca;lled Pepper Mill and begged her to make me grow it back. Make of that what you will.
2.) If your facial hair turns gray before your head, you can color just your facial hair. This is such a common thing that they make hair coloring just for facial hair. I’ve used it, and it works very well. So your husband can both look younger and retain his 'stache.
3.) Someone really ought to tell John Bolton about that stuff:
I haven’t seen my upper lip since the 60s. I had a beard for about 20 years, and have since had a goatee or just a 'stache.
I believe facial hair gives a face character, especially the eyes. And if a man has thin lips, it makes them look fuller.
My facial hair is graying much faster than my head hair, which at age 64, still has only a few gray hairs. For a while I was dying the facial hair until I realized it looked very fake. So now I have a gray goatee/'stache with dark brown hair on the top. Neither my partner nor anyone else is complaining.
Now that hubby looks 25 years younger, it’s up to you to do something. Chances are you don’t have a mustache, so that leaves tucks, lifts, injections and other enhancements that will be more expensive.
I haven’t shaved my upper lip since 1973. Seconding Just For Men Beard Color. Stuff works great, and much quicker than they would have you believe. One minute is enough to get rid of all the grey in my beard and 'stache.
But if you do have a 'stache, you might want to do something about it.
I am not particularly in love with Himself’s handlebar, but there are boundaries within every relationship which you know damned well you can’t cross. The mustache is sacrosanct.
I am sure my wife would have the same reaction as you did. We are coming up on our 20th wedding anniversary and she has never seen me without my mustache.
My brother shaved his mustache about a year ago. He and his wife had been married for 20 years and she had never seen him without one for as long as she’s known him.
The day that he shaved it, my younger niece (about 13 yrs old) told her older sister (about 18 yrs old) “Dad shaved his mustache!” The older one says “Dad had a mustache?”
I’ve never seen my husband clean-shaven. He’s had at least a mustache since he was middle-school aged, I’m told, and now he sports a close-trimmed beard too. I think his face would look a little naked without some sort of facial hair.
Yeah. Later that night, after we were in bed, I asked him to kiss me on the neck and shoulders, just because I couldn’t remember what it felt like to be kissed there by someone without a mustache!
As for all those who mention dye, he did talk to his hairdresser about it; she said that facial hair is much courser than the hair on your head, so the dye is much harsher. The only color that covers completely, according to Linda, is black. So in her opinion, he’d end up looking like Hitler!
That’s the idea. Not the Hitler part, the other. If you use JFMB and only leave it in for a minute, it gets rid of most of the grey. That way the 'stache doesn’t look obviously dyed.
I have never shaved my upper lip. Ever. And I doubt I ever will. I’ve had at least the ghost of a mustache since I was 13.
The grey doesn’t bother me at all :). I think vanity might start kicking me a bit when I inevitably start to develop a bald spot ( not yet, but I seem to be accumulating more hair in the shower drain - I’m sure it is just a matter of time. ).
When I was 3 or so, my dad shaved off all his facial hair (full beard). Apparently I didn’t believe this strange, hairless man was my father and cried woefully.
I grew a mustache and beard (successfully) for the first time evar this summer. At 40, it took some realization that I couldn’t just let it all grow in, it looked scruffy and haggard…but a little trimming here and there and it looks pretty good.
I asked the wife about it and she didn’t really care one way or the other…it’s me…with some additional hair. Evidently she doesn’t love me for my looks.
On the other hand, I turn the corner at work and the older middle-management lady said “You GREW A BEARD! It makes you look like a grown-up!”
At one point I shaved off my full beard, which I had had for over 20 years. I just left a moustache. Several people asked how I had grown the 'stache so quickly.
My husband’s mustache is old enough to drive. He’s had it since he was about 15 or 16. He’s had the beard for quite a while, too. I’ve told him that shaving the facial hair is grounds for divorce.
Exception applies for chemo. He hasn’t started yet, but I’m waiting.
