It started as a stupid argument. Then he blocked my way and I tried to pushed by him to get through. Then he kicked and pushed me, and I called the cops. He was arrested, but will be released tonight. The kids (all 4 of them ) are freaked out and want to know what will happen. I’m freaked out and want to know what will happen too.
We’ve been married for 16 years, I am unemployed, and I feel lost.
You pushed him?
No, he was blocking my way and I tried to get by him to get out.
I’m sorry to hear this. 
Whatever happens, I hope it all works out the best for you and your family,** Palo Verde**. Thoughts and prayers.
Well that sucks Had he ever done anything like that before? Or emotional abuse?
Well last year when I was driving down a highway, with all 4 kids in the car, he got mad about something and turned the car off. The breaks didn’t work much, the steering locked, and I barely got the car stopped safely. I guess you could say he has anger management issues.
Did the police mention anything about a temporary restraining order? If not, can you follow up with your local precinct to see what it would take to have one put in place?
Losing control in a relatively minor manner can be forgiven once (ONCE.) The stunt in the car, though, had the potential to be deadly. This guy should not be around you or your children.
I’m not really sure what will happen. But chiming in with the hope that you guys can get things worked out satisfactorily for you both and the kids. There will probably be some kind of diversion program offered in lieu of prosecution, and if there is, hopefully your husband will take that opportunity to get counseling/anger management and work out his issues.
Scary. Please read this book, it’s really really helpful.
He just called from jail. It’s just so weird to me to even say that. He’s mostly worried about the kids and how they are reacting.
I am sorry you’re going through this. I was in an abusive relationship with my ex-husband. I made excuses for him for years before I finally had enough.
Maybe you really love him. Maybe you’ll try to convince yourself that the argument was your fault. You don’t deserve to be kicked no matter what. The incident with the kids in the car is just downright scary.
Do you have some family or a very good friend you can confide in? There are many places that can help you.
Be strong for your kids and good luck to you.
I am so sorry for you. 4 kids and no job will make this so much harder for you.
You don’t deserve to be kicked and shoved. And you certainly don’t deserve to die because he blows up. IMO, shutting the car off was attempted murder/suicide.
My only suggestion is to call the police back (non emergency line) and ask for help. Shelters are very scary places, but if you have no money and kids to protect, they really are the best place to be.
Offers up a supportive hug, then picks your phone up and puts it in your hand. Seriously, get out now.
This book changed my life. Really, read it. And I do hope that everything works out for you and your children.
Read this again and again. And take that phone that’s in your hand and call.
That’s way beyond abuse, it’s attempted murder. It’s very important that the authorities know about this.
Would it be possible to have another family member there when he comes home?
Can you call a 24h locksmith? You weren’t planning on letting back into the house, were you?
I don’t think it was attempted murder because he didn’t know the car would react that way. It was stupid, but he wasn’t trying to kill us.
…so what was he trying to do, if you don’t mind my asking? What did that look like from his point of view?
I’m sorry this has happened to you. I can’t offer any advice but felt compelled to say something. Best of luck.
Wait, what? Does he know how to drive? Has he ever driven a car? How old is your car? The last vehicle I drove that didn’t lock up when shut off was a 1974 pick up. You are really lucky that the steering wheel didn’t lock up.
If he drives, he knew what he was doing. He was just so mad that he didn’t care.
I know that you are scared. Your future has just gone to heck. You are lost and worried and don’t know what to do.
Gives you another hug and shoves the phone back into your hand. Stop making excuses for him, he almost killed your children!
Get out now. He’s going to be really mad when he comes home. You put him in jail, how dare you do that for a few shoves and a kick? After he kicks the shit out of you tonight, he might buy flowers for you in the morning. I just hope they don’t end up on a coffin.