Some of the video chats have been at her home, some at work for her. She actually took me on a little “tour” of the place she works via skype phone app. I have no real way to determine how long she has worked there but she claims 4 years. I have seen her mom and sister on video chat, just wandering by and lean in and say hello kinda thing but I have never actually talked to them.
I own my business so no big deal to bring her down to see. Most of my family is within a couple hours drive, but I may hold off on that till a later visit. I don’t really care about my families reactions since I really only see them for holidays so my day to day life is pretty much a mystery to them anyway. Mom and my one full blood sister are local and they will end up meeting.
I will be putting a packet together of copies, all her return flight info, color copies of passport, family contact info, money, etc and leaving it with my sister in case anything catastrophic should happen to me or us that potentially leaves her stranded. She speaks and reads english fairly well so I am not too worried about her being able to manage without me for a few hours here and there while I work. I also live about a 10 min walk from a major shopping mall with 16 screen movie theatre and various other activities and things to explore.
I’m sorry - I wasn’t trying to insinuate that you’re planning on pressuring her or anything, I’ve just read a lot of Dan Savage, and one of the oft-repeated themes is, “I flew halfway across the country to meet my sweetie for the first time, I’m not feeling any chemistry, and I feel obligated to put out because they’re putting me up/paying my way/whatever.”
It’s just something that often helps reassure women that the guy really is interested in her as a person, and isn’t just looking to “get his money’s worth”. It makes you look even better.
FWIW I think you’re going about this the right way, and I really hope it goes well for you.
Honestly I think you’re crazy for hosting this woman you’ve never met that will travel around the globe to stay with a man she’s never met. But, I wish you the best of luck and I hope it works out.
A last minute “problem” came up and she asked for cash for plane ticket. Also claimed that a ticket purchased by me with a credit card would look suspicious to Vietnamese customs/immigration types.
Something smells like fish sauce here…
Since this pinged hard on the scam radar, I did a little cross checking, and inquired with a certain doper well known for being knowledgeable on immigration paperwork.
I had copies of several passports from various ladies I had talked to.
I printed them out large and took a long hard look at them.
I found 2 that had the same passport number :eek:
1 of them…was the woman I had been talking to. :eek: :eek:
So to exhaust the benefit of any doubt. I found an email form for information at Hoh Chi Minh city US Embassy, including the ability to attach pictures. And sent it in Thursday morning.
This morning I got a reply:
Dear Sir/Madam,
Thank you for your inquiry.
Please be informed that the image you attached is not a legitimate U.S. visa.
I’d suggest just simply cutting off all contact with her, period.
If you really want a little revenge, there are plenty of sites online to post pictures of people that are running scams on dating sites. You could post her pictures there so other people will get hits when they run her pictures through GIS.
Of course, she’ll probably become aware of this pretty quickly and change her picture so I’d put up the name on her Visa/Passport as well so that comes up in a search too.
Yeah… I told her this morning I know her visa is fake. She is basically trying to say the “travel agency” screwed her over and that she will get this resolved.
Aww, sorry it didn’t work out for you man. Sorry you missed out on whatever you hoped would happen but very glad you missed out on what really would have happened.
