{{{Zoe and family}}}
I will keep your family and that of the young man lost in my thoughts and prayers, Zoe. I can’t imagine what pain you’re all going through, especially your niece. This is one of those situations that some people never quite manage to reconcile their emotions over. I hope that there are counselors available to all concerned who can help them through their grief.
When I opened the thread I hoped it was about sports tickets. Damn, Zoe, I’m sorry. I never drove drunk, but I can remember feeling invulnerable at that age.
How horrible.
I’m so sorry. We all do terribly foolish, stupid, dangerous things. I’m sorry that this act had those consequences.
Oh jeeeez, Zoe… I’m so sorry. This is terrible news. I wish all of you strength.
This is beyond tragic, and there are no words. I hope you find healing and peace, and that this horrible event brings your family closer together.
I’m so sorry for your family, Zoe. I hope your nephew gets out of this both physically and emotionally intact.
Oh, Zoe, that’s so tragic and awful I can’t even think of anything to say. I’m so terribly sorry.
How is he doing?
What a horrible and tragic incident. I’m so very sorry.
Sending warm hugs, best wishes, and lots of prayers to you and your whole family Zoe.
I’m very sorry to hear this Zoe. As others have said, we all do foolish and dangerous things in our youth.
I agree. I must say, I don’t understand why there’s so much concern and sympathy for the nephew in this scenario. How many people would feel sorry for a drunk driver who killed one of their own loved ones or put them in the hospital? I hope he goes to prison. It wasn’t a “tragic accident,” it was a crime that killed somebody.
My thanks to all of you who are posting. I am doing okay with this so far, but your concern means the world to me.
Seven is not threadshitting at all. When someone is found to be driving while intoxicated – whether there has been an accident or not – her or his car should be impounded for a very long time and the driver’s license taken away. There should be some jail time too then.
Denmark has a very tough intoxicated driver law that is similar to that. I can’t remember all of the details. I went to a large New Year’s Eve party there once and no one who had been drinking drove a car away. Cabs were arranged ahead of time, or there were designated drivers who really didn’t drink, or people walked to nearby friends’ homes.
Seven, I hope that you are able to find relief from your injuries. I am with you. The first year that I taught school, I had to stand at the wall of windows of my classroom to watch the funeral procession of one of our Seniors as it passed. He had been killed by a drunk driver.
Diogenes agrees with us. And I think that many here feel the same.
SeaDragon, I know that you know how my family is feeling. I’m sorry for your losses too.
tumbledown, you are exactly right. It is my niece that I am thinking of most right now. She doesn’t know what to do with all of her conflicting emotions.
All of the posts here are valuable to me. I am grateful for your friendships and offers of support.
He was intended to be dead in a car wreck? I know you mean well, but you might want to rethink how you phrase things.
Yes, the nephew should not have been driving but did his friend know he’d been drinking? If you get in the car with a drunk driver you are taking a stupid risk and are also at fault for whatever happens to you.
So, yes the fault is with the driver but it is also with any person who chooses to get in the car with a driver who has been drinking. I see it as equal blame. I hope your niece can see this and it can help her through this ordeal.
What a shitstorm of terror. I’m really sorry to hear it, Zoe. I never drove “drunk” but like the typical young male idiot I drove buzzed a few times when I was a teenager, and I want to punch myself in the face everytime I think about it. It’s such a needless, pointless risk to take. If I’ve had enough to feel the effects of alcohol whatsoever - or 3 drinks, whichever comes first - I’m not driving. That’s been my policy for years now and it’s served me well. You might get home safe 99 times, but the 100th time, when this happens, it ruins a lot more than just one life. Those 100 cab fares, or long walks, or nights on couches would seem less than paltry.
Zoe, I am sorry to read this and my heart goes out to you and your family. It’s your niece I feel particularly sorry for. To have her fiance be killed only a few days after he proposed must be heart-breaking. To have him be killed by her brother must be even worse. I can’t imagine how much pain and anger she must be going through. My prayers are with you. {{{{{Zoe and family}}}}}
I’m sorry you and your family have to deal with this pain, Zoe. I wish your nephew hadn’t driven while he was drunk.