And that about sums it up. First we were going to use the same lawyer. S2BX and I hashed out the property settlement, went to the lawyer I chose (female Jewish family lawyer from New York, an absolute shark–I love her), went over the agreement with her, made some minor changes. Then he got so scared of my lawyer that he retained his own, making our uncontested divorce contested. My lawyer received the changes his lawyer wants, and the changes are so minor that my lawyer won’t consider this a contested divorce as far as billing goes (cheaper for uncontested than contested). Here’s the kicker: his lawyer made changes IN MY FAVOR (shortening the time period for receiving payments) and made changes that while they don’t adversely affect the divorce, make no sense! Plus his lawyer never officially notified my lawyer of his retainment, so this has held up the process for over 2 weeks. And while I’m not the one who wanted the divorce originally (although now I do), I seem to be the one that is in charge of it. Not looking for legal advice, just wanted to point out that only the asshole I am married to would hire a lawyer unexperienced in family law to handle his divorce. (This has the beginnings of a pit thread except I haven’t cussed enough).
Congratulations. I wish you a speedy and felicitous divorce.
That’s okay. My divorce lawyer showed up drunk to the final hearing, and the judge refused to postpone the hearing even though the guy was obviously inebriated. But, on the plus side, the guy was so incompetant that he never sent me a bill for the remaining amount I owed him which was a couple thousand dollars. Seven years later, it still hasn’t shown up on my credit report, so I don’t care.