How are you doing, hlanelee?
My condolences.
My deepest condolences to you.
hlanelee; my deepest sympathy for your loss. As I do not know you and you do not know me except from out posts at SDMB, I do want to say that I even though I cannot imagine the pain you feel now, you and your family are in my heart & thoughts.
This is a poem, that I am sure many have seen, but I like to read it when I feel down about the death of a loved one or a friend, both of which I have experienced in the last year. I do not know who wrote it so forgive there being no cite.
I’m Glad you’re in my Dash
I read of a man who stood to speak at the funeral of a
friend. He referred to the dates on her tombstone
from the beginning…to the end.
He noted that first came her date of birth
And spoke the following date with tears,
But he said what mattered most of all
Was the dash between those years
For that dash represents all the time
That she spent alive on earth…
And now only those who loved her
Know what that little line is worth.
For it matters not, how much we own;
The cars…the house…the cash,
What matters is how we live and love
And how we spend our dash.
So think about this long and hard…
Are there things you’d like to change?
For you never know how much time is
left, That can still be rearranged.
If we could just slow down enough
To consider what’s true and real,
And always try to understand
The way other people feel.
And be less quick to anger,
And show appreciation more
And love the people in our lives
Like we’ve never loved before.
If we treat each other with respect,
And more often wear a smile…
Remembering that this special dash
Might only last a little while!
So, when your eulogy’s being read
With your life’s actions to rehash…
Would you be proud of the things they say
About how you spent your dash?.
I am glad that you’re part of my dash.
-Becki
hlanelee, I’m sorry to hear of your loss. I send you and your family my warmest thoughts and prayers.
My condolences on your loss, hlanelee. May you know no more sorrow.
I’m so very sorry for your loss.
My deepest condolences go out to you. Take care of yourself, and don’t forget we’re here for you should you need any help.
hlanelee, I am so very sorry. I wish I had the words to express myself better. My condolences.
Lisa
I’m so very sorry.
God go with you, Hlanelee. Is there anything we can do to help comfort you?
hlanelee, I’m so sorry. I dreamt once I lost my husband. I couldn’t believe the hurt and pain I felt. I’m so sorry you’re feeling it for real!
My most sincere condolences. Going through a similar situation right now I can come in to how you must feel.
Salaam. A
My sincere condolances. Nothing that I say will lessen the pain, but know that you are in my thoughts.
My lord, what a week it’s been. I am so incredibly sorry to know you’re suffering this tragedy. Please believe me when I say you’re loved by us here and if there is anything you’d like to express we’re here for you. Write me if you like, I’ll even send you my telephone number if you would like to talk sometime. I’m not sure where you live (my brain’s kinda numb too) but since we’re sort of in the same boat I’ll help you get through this if there’s anyway I can help.
I’m so sad it’s beyond words but at the same time I’m grateful to have had her as long as I did. It was a wonderful marriage with true love between us which never failed. Honeymooners 'til the end…
Take care hlanelee and remember the good things. Never dwell on the other and never say what if…no good can come of it. If Connie was like my Therese, she wouldn’t want you to suffer. Hold that love close and share it with all who care.
regards, Jay G.
My deepest condolences.
I am so sorry for your loss. I wish there was more that could be said or done in these circumstances. As I sympathize with you hlanelee and t-keela for your respective losses, I feel so inadequate.
You and your loved ones are in my thoughts and prayers.
My deepest sypmpathies for your loss.
I’m so very sorry for your loss. Please, take care of yourself, as hard as it may be.
I’m so sorry.