Last night, I had to call the ambulance to come get my wife. She had been sick for two or three weeks and last night it got really bad. I saw her at the hospital last night and she could barely acknowledge I was there. This morning the doctor called and said she was really bad. She had lost consciousness last night and they put her on a respirator. I couldn’t get there until this afternoon and when I did the nurse told me her blood sugar was real high and her blood pressure was going down. I understood and gave the DNR order, I told the nurse to just make her comfortable. Me and the wife had discussed this after I was brain damaged in 95. I went to get something to eat and they let me in. The nurse was with her and he told me, “It will happen any time now.” He didn’t use any euphamisms, thank God. The her heart stopped, it was 5:30. Jim is a good nurse, I can’t explain how much I appreciate him. I don’t know haow he does it. Me and Connie were together 17 years.
hlanelee, I am indeed deeply sorry to hear of the loss of your wife. Based on what I read in the “learning to read” thread, she sounded like a wonderful human being and a pillar of support in your life. My warmest thoughts go to you.
I’m so very sorry, hlanelee. My deepest condolences to you.
Veb
I am sorry to hear about the loss of your wife. We will keep you in our thoughts and prayers.
Oh my God. I am so sorry. My deepest sympathies to you and your family.
I am so sorry to hear of your loss.
hlanelee, I can’t imagine the hurt you are feeling right now. May your memories of the time you spent with your wife comfort you immensely. You are in my thoughts. My sympathies.
My thoughts and prayers are with you.
I don’t know what to say, other than to offer my condolences to you and all those who knew and loved her.
hlanelee,
My heart goes out to you. I’d be interested in knowing how old your wife was. I’m coming up on the one year anniversary of the death of my wife (She died July 11, 2003). She was 38 years old, and we were married for 21 years.
The first year is tough, but I finally realize it gets easier. I believe that once you get past all the ‘firsts’, is when you can really begin healing. My 18 year old daughter had me in tears on the ‘first Father’s day without my wife’. She painted me an abstract painting that represented my wife and me. I’ll cherish it forever.
I still have the occasional day where I’ll be driving and I’ll just bust into tears.
I don’t know what religious affiliation you are (if any), but I found great comfort from my church. Thanks in part to tomndebb who was partially (and indirectly) responsible for me getting back into the church about a year before.
If you need someone to talk to, send me an email and I’ll give you my phone number.
I’m sorry.
E3
I just finished saying the same thing to t-keela. You are in the hearts of people all over the world today. I’ve prayed for you. I don’t know how you feel about that kind of thing, but it’s meant in the kindest way. Hang in there.
Ann
What a sad night in this community. I’m so sorry for your loss, hlanelee.
OH! I sorry, but I must say that it is good to hear that she had a comfortable passing. A brave decision for you both to have made, but I am sure you are now glad you did.
My very best wishes to you.
Damn, that really sucks. I don’t know what I would do if it happened to me…
I’m very sorry about your loss. I’ll keep you in my thoughts tonight.
Sorry to hear about your loss. At least you were there with her. I’m sure that meant a lot to her.
My most sincere condolences, hlanelee. My thoughts and prayers for you and your remarkable wife.
StG
I’m very sorry, hlanelee; my thoughts are with you.
Oh, man. Thinking about you and your child(ren). So sorry.