I am super confused on why my wife does not want to get a house.
Our current situation:
We live in an apartment and pay almost 900/month for rent in a 870 square foot apartment. New management has taken over the complex, and things have been going downhill ever since. In my opinion, it is probably bad enough that we could break our lease over (ceilings falling down in outside hallways, “gated” community gate broken, raccoon infestation of property, none of gym equipment working, etc), but we not planning on doing that, just trying to paint the picture of our situation. The new management has informed us that when our lease runs out in February, even if we renew, our rate will be above $1100/month. I do not want to renew the lease, but wife is more hesitant.
We both have well paying jobs now, and I believe based on my income alone I could qualify for a loan of about $100,000, with hers, hopefully even more easily. I have tried explaining to her that a house would be a much better situation for us as we have a dog now that would enjoy a backyard, we could have a workshop in the garage, vegetable garden, etc. This would be our first home, and so we would also qualify for the 8000 dollar tax credit if we started moving on this.
This brings me to my dilemma. She says she wants a house, but whenever I bring up the idea of contacting a real estate agent, getting info on loans, or even looking at houses on our own, she never wants to do it. I understand the need to go into this slowly, but I feel she is more than just dragging her feet (which she has a history of doing) and it is going to cost us a lot of money in the near future.
I’m trying to look at this from her shoes, and these are the possible things I have come up with:
- She is afraid to make this large of a commitment.
- She is afraid to make this large of a commitment WITH ME.
- Her parents have been rather wealthy all her life, and she has never had to borrow money before.
- She actually may prefer to live in a third floor apartment with a high energy dog.
- She has told me she’s ready to put roots in this area, but she may have changed her mind and be afraid to tell me. She might feel bad about this because she convinced me to move away from my hometown and halfway across the country to live here.
- She’s an idiot. (haha;))
For the houses in our price range, I think it would come out to be about the same price/month with taxes and maintenance, but with the addition of all the benefits (and drawbacks) of a house. I would appreciate anyone else’s opinions on how to handle this situation, as either way we will need to make a decision on where we will be living within a few months.