Wow, this thread was better than the missing co-worker one.
Something tells me that he got a severence package but that he will not be getting a better paying job with uncle number 2 nor will he be inheriting this business.
Let me say that I’m glad that Projammer’s prediction was so close to the fact, and much, much more accurate than my own. I’m glad to see that Mrs. the Rhymer won’t have to deal with this slime mold at work any longer.
I’m still pissed, however, so this final detail has me wanting to reach for a weapon to hurt DW with. Given the OP’s desire to stay within the bounds of what’s legal that means I’d be having to argue with myself pretty hard against getting a lawyer and suing DW for harassment.
First off, kudos to your wife for facing her fears on this. Well done. You, IMO, also did right in supporting her without doing it for her.
What really galls me is the utter lack of remorse from DW. Getting a new job at higher pay from his uncle? Anticipating the ability to inherit, return, and start the mess all over again?
If the other uncle wants to hire DW, I’d suggest finding a way to make his employment very expensive. I’d be investigating, still, a possible lawsuit. It seems clear to me that this is would be a very good place to apply the phrase “punitive damages”.
Once uncle #2 sees what dear nephew did to uncle #1’s bottom line, I suspect a very short leash will be attached to his 'nads. It’s too much to expect that he’d not be employed by uncle #2, family is family, even more so in the south, but he may get a cubicle in the back room away from sane folk.
I’m not very surprised at the predjudice, it’s alive and well around the country.
Alabama, after all, was the last state to remove state constitutional law (Feb, 2000) that forbade interracial marriages - it passed on a 60/40 vote. 4 out of 10 people voted to keep the law.
I graduated high school in the 80’s in LA (Lower Alabama) and my teacher made a point of verifying that I’d be OK rooming with a fellow student of a different race on a overnight school trip. Probably choose me to be his roomie since I was a northern import (from Kentucky - which is “Yankee” to most Alabamans).
Yup - racial idiocy still exists. I thought, though, that the bigots had mostly learned to keep it out of the office… camouflaged. EEO laws aren’t exactly a new thing. Lord knows I know how to manage my career around EEO guidelines. It’s basic career survival in corporate america.
Make it expensive for them - I think this family needs a good spanking.
We only have his word that this is happening. And if Uncle #2 is anything like Uncle #1, he won’t touch Dear Old Nevvie with a 10 foot pole.
The guy is a racist, a moron and testosterone poisoned. What do you expect, a courteous apology? 
Just that email, plus his job termination here, should be sufficient for her to get a protective order against him. Do it.
And have the order served on him at his new place of employment, at the other uncle’s. The word will get around there, and will provide early warning to any workers there who might be female/black/mixed-race/interracially-married.
Most likely a face saving brag. If Uncle #2 was willing to pay him MORE MONEY, why in the hell wouldn’t he have moved over to Uncle #2’s company before this.
I’m glad everything worked out but KEEP EVERYTHING (obviously) and all your notes. If her job prospect go South at this company, you may still desire the lawsuit.
And if this wasn’t a face saving brag and DW shows up again, you’ll want all the stuff the moment he says boo.
The sentiment, yes I’m sure lots of folks still harbor it. I regularly encounter people who think that interracial marriage is banned by the Bible.
This is what I’m thinking. Even the jackasses around here who think that way have the sense to keep their lip zipped in the office. This dude is twenty-nine kinds of crazy for uttering that in a professional environment.
The good thing about your post is that it is very likely true.
The bad thing is that I feel stupid for not having thought of that myself. I wasted a couple of days being irritated over the colossal unfairness of it all.
A few people commanded on his craziness in saying the NL line in public. I don’t see it as entirely crazy; rather, he figured that he’d burned all bridges there, so why not say what he felt? To me that also makes it more likely that the other job is no fact, just brag.
There’s probably more stuff I could say, but frankly my brain isn’t in gear.
Kudos to Mrs R for the great resolution. It certainly is a battle won, if not the war.
I tend to agree with t-bonham about the protective order and the others who suggested escorts to her car. Not just because of the email, but also that;
Though I hope it was only to deliver his ‘coup de grace’ that he ended up having to email, leaving another clue that he is clueless.
I second (third?) that - his email scares me, too. This is one disturbed individual.
Please give your wife all my best wishes for getting anything she can out of this bad situation and putting it behind her.
Can she get her work email changed? She doesn’t need to hear from him again.
I’m so glad this is working out so well so far. I, too, wouldn’t put too much stock in his closing remarks. I’d doubt anybody who knows him would be stupid enough to take the risk.
I’m glad it all worked out pretty well, Skald, and we can certainly say you handled the situation the right way. Good for your wife!
Considering the way DW’s exit went down, though, I’d still consider suing or at least getting a restraining order.
Oh yeah, he was totally full of horseshit.
He was doing the douchebag equivalent of falling on his face and getting up to say: “I meant to do that!”
You know, one of those: “Fired? Ha! I didn’t want this job anyway! Because I have another job waiting for me that will pay twice as much!” :rolleyes:
Agreed. This was my first thought upon reading that sentence. Your wife needs an Order For Protection against this guy, permanent if at all possible, but definitely not just for a few months duration.
Please do it NOW, before she sees douchebag in the parking lot.
I wouldn’t feel stupid. You’ve handled a complex and difficult problem very competently - both you and your wife. And if the worst mistake you’ve made in this is spending a few days irritated over something that isn’t likely to be true, you are still way ahead of most people who face situations like this.
I would worry about vandalism to her car if she drives to work. After all, those two have managed to prove in no uncertain terms that they are immature assholes. So I wouldn’t put it past them.
Been following this thread and while I’m super happy that it worked out mostly in your wife’s favour - please use the reasons for his firing, his final comments, his attempt to get near her on his way out and that pathetic little email comment to get some sort of legally recognised protection for your wife, who’s been through quite enough.
He’s clearly extremely bitter now and he was a colossal festering arsehole when he thought he had nothing to worry about. Imagine what he’s like now that he’s pissed off.
Yay! and whoa… this guy sounds now VERY creepy, rather than just a jerk. Keep that email (it should print with a time stamp, no?). And I would forward to HR as well–they’ll keep a record of it.
At least he made the move towards her in front of witnesses, possibly including one from HR. Launching into the diatribe in front of the HR rep didn’t help him any, either.
If I were Skald’s wife, I’d forward the e-mail to amy from HR and let her know that I’m doing it just as an FYI, not to make more trouble for the guy (he’s making plenty for himself). It will let HR know he’s expressed an intention to keep on doing what he’s been doing and it’s concrete evidence that can be passed on to the owner and the other uncle if needed.
You know, you seldom get to see and asshole that big these days. The breed seems to be dying out or quieting down and I’m glad to see it.