G’luck with your dates. I’ve been on OkC before, met a couple of really cool, scintillating people, a few needy people (mix gratuitous compliments with melancholy sighing over unattainable women, and stir well), and a lot of horndogs.
Do you live in a city with good downtown strolling area? It’s nice walking around in the evening when the heat has passed, and having lots of people around gives you some nice conversation op’s and keeps things safe.
I, for one, am a big fan of boardgames, but that’s more the sort of thing to do when you’ve both decided to reglegate the other to the “friends only” compartment of your interpersonal rolodexes.
Btw, what do people consider to be a good length of time for a second date? What’s “standard”, as far as there is one?
I’m now going to a free outdoor showing of Madagascar 2 for my second date next week. Check around and see if there is anything like that in your area.
I’d be concerned the guy who says he knows how to sail really knows. First-date guys tend to know everything.
All these ideas you’ve been offered sound really good. Parks are great, because there’s so much to walk through, paces to sit without feeling any obligation to look at anything. Miniature golf, too. Ice cream is fun and involves a lot of talking (since you say it’s hot).
And, yes, playing board games either has the dork connotation – or the exact opposite.
A trip to Ikea could be great fun. There’s a lot to do and see, and you can create a subtext of playing house.
Toy stores are also good. You tap into each other’s inner child and set an atmosphere of playfulness. I did that once on a first date. We spent about 20 minutes inside of a playhouse. When the store clerk asked if she could help us with anything, we said “No, we’re good!” That added a level of conspiracy to it. It set the tone for a seven-year relationship.
Although I would like to add here that one date suggested board games while we were chatting in a coffee shop, so we played Jenga while sipping tea. Excellent.
In other news, where do I go to eat my words? I believe I was the first to speak out against board games, so I’ll take my medicine as quietly as possible.
How about an art museum/gallery.
Amazing what you can learn about a person as they comment on art.
You might wind up loving them, or fleeing as fast as you can.
In any case, certainly allows for wandering and talking.
