I also got a negative (in the positive way) result on a recent HIV test though I had absolutely no reason whatever to think I wouldn’t. It quite irritated me, however, that my doctor insisted I take the test even though I told him "Yes, I’m gay, no I’m not usually sexually active, yes, I have had sex in the last seven years [I think- what’s today?]… HOWEVER [I won’t get as explicit here but I did with him] I’ve done nothing in years that could conceivably transmit HIV, or if I have then you can write a paper that HIV can also be transmitted by a new method. Still, he insisted I have the test even though I had one during a routine physical a year ago (it was just part of the battery included) and shall we say it’s been a dry year.
Irritates me as pretty much any straight male friend I have is more sexually active than I am and higher risk and yet they don’t get this. (Of course the same doctor witnessed to me about Jesus [or tried to] while still lubed and latexed- I’m thinking of getting another Primary, which is such a pain.)
Just don’t get too drunk tonight celebrating. Might do something you’d regret…
I had a friend who got a false positive about six months ago. He knew it was a false positive, because he’s about the lowest-risk case you can imagine (virgin non-drug user with no blood transfusions) but it was still quite a scare.
Well I got a letter today saying thank you for my last blood donation so I guess if I was positive they would have told me then. Not that there is any reason to think I could have been positive.
YOU ohmygod–what about ME? Jeebus-lemme tell you-not a nice thing to live through.
Twice.
I am very glad that folks here are tested, have been tested and will continue to get tested-I’m all for it. And please use condoms. [/public health ad]
I also agree with sampiro -heteros should be tested as frequently as gays, if they are um, how you say, actively active. (meaning many partners).
Do we *know *he didn’t practice safe sex? I don’t see where he says he didn’t in the OP, although I could have missed it. And even if I used a condom with someone and they called me three months later with this news, I’d still get tested anyway.
I knew there was a reason I loved you best, Anaamika, thought I had always thought it was your general sexiness.
Anywhistle, I’ve typically been safe in sex, and always with the former fuck buddy in question; the last time I wasn’t safe was when I was in a long-term (for me) monogamous relationship and we’d both been tested. (I admit to having a lot of unsafe sex in college.). That said, the FB insists that she was always, always, always safe, and even condoms don’t always work.
Thanks for this as well. I’ve been feeling faintly guilty in my glee (is there an opposite to schaudenfreude?) because of her situation. It seems unfair; she’s no more a slut than I am. (Okay … no less a slut than I.) But that’s the way the dice rolled, I 'spose, along with the fact that M-F transmission is, as I understand it, considerably easier than F-M.
Anywhistle – the long national nightmare is over; I no longer feel obliged to be utterly celibate. Whee!
Not to mention a frighteningly large number of younger folks who aren’t all that worried it’ll happen to them. Because, you know, you’re immortal at 17. And they have all those drugs for AIDS now and they keep people alive, right? No, really, some people think it’s not a big problem anymore. “Won’t happen to me, and if it does I have those drugs anyway.” :rolleyes:
Happy you’re clear, Skald. Because I work in a hospital lab, I’m sure that at some point in my life, no matter how careful I am, I’ll be waiting for a blood test result myself.
I didn’t mean it to be snarky. I’ve lost many a friend and family member to AIDS. I just kind of hoped in this day and age people understand the risks and are more careful.
