Someone that was my best friend at work for years, whom I had a bit of a falling out with over issues that really are not so important any more ( money/dead beat job never ending rants) called me to day out of the blue.
Nearly 3.5 years.
We clicked together like Groucho and Chico.
After all this time, searching for someone to talk to , for just bullshitting with, and lamenting over the fact I would never have that again because well, everyone I’ve been meeting lately seems to be walking around in a haze of ignorance and self induced stupidity and I just figured I was in the Sahara desert of companionship (for female friends.)
My old friend calls.
We both had significant years. Her mom died in January. My brother died in January. Naturally, I trumped her with antoher sick brother, two car accidents, a dead uncle and a major car repair.
We didn’t even bury the hatchet. As we never really had a fight. More along the lines of she was irritated with me for getting married/getting a house/starting a family and she never made any attempt at change. ( Change is powerfully fearful and I understand it totally now.) She just said “It was time for one of us to do something.”
Damn, she was right.
I guess you don’t miss the water till the well runs dry.
I did note that her birthday is tomorrow and I accused her of grousing for a card.
So I rushed off to Borders and picked out one ( and blew $20 on magazines in honor of her.)
A good friend is really hard to find.
I’m just really happy right now, did I mention that?
I’m happy you’re happy. That’s cool! I’m pretty happy, too. Hubby’s gone hunting, so I have 3 whole days to myself to clean, shop and decorate for the holidays!
I’ve been thinking about calling up an old friend for a while now, but have been putting it off.
We never really had a falling out or anything like that, just kind of drifted apart. It’s been over three years since I’ve seen or talked to him, and your post has given me that little bit of extra inspiration that I needed. I think I’ll call him up while I’m in town on Saturday.
Wow, I had a similar experience today. I was at the store I used to work at to pick up a few things and I ran into an old flame. We were both surprised to see each other - her because I look significantly different from when we dated, and me because while I knew she used to work there, I was surprised she still did - but hit it off just the same as we always did.
Unfortunately, she has a bf now and I’m in no way interested in a relationship with her or anybody else (she cheated on me anyway…what an awful way to end a relationship. But I digress…) but we agreed that we needed to go drink a few beers or some coffee or something “one of these days.”
So hooray Shirley! Let us rejoice together for finding the friends that got away.
Just like the doctor told me: Find something different everyday to smile about. Glad I did, and I’m glad you did too, Shirley. Hope things go great for you.
