Did I miss the part where you’ve applied for government assistance? You should be eligible for some federal and state aid, at the least food stamps.
To all the outraged conservatives, I am not suggesting that even sven go on welfare and stop looking for work. But as hard as it is for her to find work now, it will be a thousand times harder to find it without a fixed address and telephone number.
I’m with Otto. Without food, you won’t have the energy to keep this up.
Where is your mother, love? You need her. You can’t do this by yourself. It sounds like you’re in a real crisis.
Say what? This is not the first pity thread Even Sven has launched. Like IDBB, Even Sven** whines and moans about her tough situation, yet refuses to take the necessary steps to get herself out of the jam she’s in. People here, including me, are all about the virtual hugs and sympathy when needed, but if a poster continues to request sympathy but refuses to make realistic plans to fix the situation, sympathy runs out. She said flat out that there no temp agencies in Santa Cruz, and I showed her that she wasn’t trying very hard to find one.
Actually, it would be a good idea for you to learn the difference between sympathy and coddling self-pity.
Um, what the FUCK? If the only choice for a job is working for an abusive asshole, if she chooses not to, she’s not allowed to complain? Fuck off, okay?
I’m trying to AVOID going into another Kmart job-luckily, I have a better situation-my last job had me an absolute fucking wreck most of the time, and people kept telling me to QUIT QUIT QUIT.
(It’s been a year…it’s not easy, out there, but I refuse to just get another dead end job and end up with panic attacks and nightmares again. Yeah, I know, but it ain’t worth it.)
About her being bi-polar…unfortunately, she doesn’t believe in treating it.
Sweetie, there is no shame in getting help for bipolar illness. Mental illness deserves the same parity of treatment as physical illness–you wouldn’t be embarrasssed about seeing a doctor for a broken arm or the flu, would you?
Call the Santa Cruz affiliate of the National Alliance for the Mentally Ill at (831) 427-8020. They can give you referrals to free treatment and housing and employment advice. You can also call the national office in Arlington, VA, after 10 AM M-F at 800-950-6264.
OK, I just read the thread Guin linked to–Even Sven, bipolar illness is an illness, a disease. You need to get it treated in order to be able to function.
**even sven, ** I think I recommended this in one of your earlier threads - I can’t remember right now - but have you tried contacting local nonprofits which offer vocational counseling and/or job placement? I used to work for Jewish Vocational Service, but don’t be fooled by the name; we served all denominations. Sliding scale: if you were unemployed, all services were free. If nothing else, we had hundreds of job leads for clients to peruse, many of which were not advertised anywhere else.
Plus they might be able to give you some resume writing and interviewing tips. And we used to have long-standing relationships with a number of local employers; they trusted our judgement, and would at least interview pretty much anyone we sent their way. I’m sure Catholic Charities and various other nonprofits, religiously based and otherwise, have similar programs. The better counselors in our office used to average 2-3 successful placements per week.
Forgive me if my knowledge of Bay Area geography is off (I’m just looking on online maps), but it looks like Santa Cruz is about 20-40 miles to San Jose. How’s the public transportation going there? Anywhere within 90 minutes via public transportation is fair game, after all.
And unless your mother is armed with an electric cattle prod or something equally horrible, I’d give some very serious thought to moving back home right now, while you have the money to get there. As Otto said, it’s much easier to get a job with a permanent address and phone number. Spend a year there, save money, and get out – it’s only temporary.
Thanks Gobear, I’ll check them out. I have some ambivelance towards seeking treatment- especially given whatI have encountered in the past, but I’d do anything I could right now. The situation really is unliveable… Unfortunately all of the county services I’ve contacted cannot help unless you are immediately suicidal or part of a special needs group (children, the elderly). But this seems promising.
Even Sven,
I have to agree with Matchka, have you even considered (not just the military) a federal job? Depending on your degree, if you join the Air Force, you could end up going to Officer Training School and in a matter of months, end up with butter bars on your shoulder and a $25,000 a year salary. Tuition assistance (or loan repayment,) full medical and dental, life insurance, housing, free or cheap travel, and a chance to see the world are all good reasons to do this.
Also, depending on your degree, you could sign up with the CIA (to be an analyst, PR guy, or if you’re feeling frisky, perhaps even a field spook,) FBI (if you don’t mind carrying a gun and investigating stuff,) NSA (if your field is computers or mathematics, the guys behind the black desk are always looking for more commo-crypto drones) or as a State Department attache? Also, depending on your field, perhaps you could get a teaching certificate, or a grant to go on to grad school free of charge. There are a lot of potential options out there as the other guys have pointed out. Just remember that with these McJobs, you’re aiming low, and if you aim low, you usually don’t hit anything. Best of luck to you.