Is everyone sure it is about homophobia? I am a heterosexual, but they neighbor lady won’t allow her daughter to come over and play with my daughter when it’s just me in the house. (If my wife is here, then it is fine.)
I absolutely flipped my lid when I first heard about it, but she said that she’s sorry, she knows that not all men are pedophiles, but she wouldn’t allow my daughter to come over when it was just her husband in the house. It’s “just a rule” she has.
I asked her if she let her husband stay home alone with her daughter, and she said, “Of course.” I asked what the difference was: She would take the risk of him raping her daughter, but wouldn’t subject my daughter to his proclivities? She kept dodging and saying that it was “just [her] rule.”
I called her a few choice words (some real good ones too) and haven’t spoken to her since. What a bitch. I thought it was just me, but the other guys in the neighborhood say the same thing.
If she thinks that I would harm her daughter, then there is no point in us being neighborly to each other. Fuck her.
Oh, I had a point which was she felt that about EVERY guy, not just homosexual guys…
The judge didn’t seem too concerned with the mom leaving the kid alone with, pretty much anyone, since there was no judgement levied toward her at all. But since the judgement pretty much says the dad can’t leave the kid alone with his partner … then yeah, I’ll lean toward homophobia.
If the dad wasn’t gay, and had remarried a right-thinking Christian woman, do you think there would be a judgement that any babysitter he procured had to be female?
Disgustingly, I think that’s their view. Engaging in homosexuality is a sin just as diddling kids is, they’re interchangeable or at least one leads to the other.
There is a ***huge ***difference between a parent making a silly choice about who to let her child be supervised by and a judge telling a parent that he is excluded from making an entire category of choices about who to let watch his child.
Compare: Someone choosing not to date interracially versus a law against it.
It’s probable that your neighbor has suffered some extreme pain that she doesn’t care to share with you. Don’t take it personally and try to be gracious; she doesn’t need your bruised ego adding on to the pain.
Maybe later someone will have a neighbor who won’t let their daughter be alone with Black people, and then you can handwave away racism *and *sexism. Because remember: having a negative experience with one member of a group means that it’s okay to treat the rest of that group like criminals forever!
She is not treating hm like a criminal. She has not instituted a neighborhood watch to trail every man in the area; nor has she refused to socialize with him. She is making very specific choices about who she wants her child to be alone with, and it’s symptomatic of someone who has seen the danger first hand.
Many rape victims are uncomfortable being alone with men, sometimes for years afterwards. Does that really equate with racism in your mind?!? :rolleyes:
Because, honestly, from what jtgain has written you can clearly decide that the most likely cause is some extreme pain, and then go on to deduce it’s rape.
Now that’s just silly. Of course I could be wrong, but it’s not as if there is no possible explanation other than the utterly ridiculous “This woman thinks all men are pedophiles.” There are far more likely explanations, one of which I have provided to you, which might allow our fellow Doper to have an actual friendly relationship with her.
Treating *every *man as a rapist because she was raped (which is a hell of a conclusion to jump to on its own) *is *bigoted, and it *is *treating him like a criminal. Would you excuse her if she refused to leave her daughter alone with anyone who’s Black because a Black person mugged her?