How do you feel about date rape?
I always though it was the liquor.
I hope you’re joking, but I fear you’re not.
[Note to everyone who thinks this way: Stop it right now and promise to never act this way at any event where there is dancing]
The OP is a milder and kinder version of my attitude towards these “people” who try to get me to dance after I politely decline. I was at a wedding this summer where literally everyone in the place was dancing some kind of worm line of gyrations. Fine, I could have really enjoyed watching everyone have fun if not for the dozen or so assholes who tried with increasing force to get me to join them.
I’m not too much enthralled about jumping around like in a seizure style dancing.
I learned ballroom dancing as a freshman in high school.
Just the right age to do that. ( raging hormones )
I always remember the favorite saying of our female dance instructor.
Dancing is a socially accepted way to get your hands on other men’s peoples women.
I’m not too much enthralled about jumping around like in a seizure style dancing.
I learned ballroom dancing as a freshman in high school.
Just the right age to do that. ( raging hormones )
I always remember the favorite saying of our female dance instructor.
Dancing is a socially accepted way to get your hands on other peoples women.
Or – as Oscar Wilde put it – “a vertical version of a horizontal activity”.
I’m more into prunes. Maybe even a good raisin sometimes, but no dates.
Sorry for the hijack, but why the hell did Jeph draw Faye with hairy breasts in that comic?
It’s the scar from her car accident.
I was betting that I had forgotten some back story. Thanks.
To rephrase what I said in a similar thread unless you’re someplace where you’re going to be judged on your dancing skills swaying in one place while holding a beer with one hand and half-heartedly waving the other will qualify as dancing.
Duh, it’s the “No.” Coming from other people’s mouths, it’s inaudible. They can only hear it when they speak it themselves.
None of these venues are specifically for dancing. I don’t dislike dancing, although I don’t like dancing with strangers, only friends, and mostly just my wife. But that said, if I go to a nightclub it’s not to dance, it’s because I want to see and hear the band (I don’t go to places that don’t have live music). If I go to a wedding it’s not to dance, it’s to see my friends getting married. If I go to a party, it’s not to dance, it’s to visit with friends.
Because it’s fun to get a stick-in-the-mud to dance. If you accomplish it, you acquire great social capital.
And I’m still not going to do that, no matter how hard you try.
I feel the same way about stage acts that want the audience to a)sing along or b)stand up and dance near your seat. I have a good voice, but I don’t sing in public, and dancing in place is just stupid. I also really detest things where you suddenly find yourself forced into a circle where people are holding hands. I simply refuse, and am then looked at as some sort of leper.
They succeed because they don’t stop unless you get nasty, and then you end up looking like an asshole. There are no people who secretly want to dance and need to be pushed into it, only people who will do it because yelling at you to leave them the fuck alone at a wedding is probably not going to go over well.
I love threads on the dope about parties and other common social behavior.
Agreed. People who secretly want to dance but need to be pushed into it are rare as unicorns.
I think the psychology behind this is that everyone secretly knows that dancing is ridiculous and looks stupid. But looking stupid together is a form of bonding to some people. So they do it and want you to do it as well. If you don’t do it there’s no bonding - just looking stupid. So they have to keep pressuring you to join in to save face.
(I don’t actually believe that second paragraph. I’m just venting.)
I have my own personal reasons for not dancing, namely that the music usually sucks. If there’s a good song I get up and dance but then people expect me to stay on the floor so I can’t win. I too occasionally will dance if people are begging me but it’s not because I secretly want to, it’s because like others have said, I don’t want to look like the bad guy.