Smak D, there are any number of reasons you may be having difficulty finding e-pals. You replied to my Shel Silverstein topic on MPSIMS, and you seem like an articulate person. But I can tell you one thing about me and emailing (besides the fact that I’m terrible at keeping up with it), and that is that nothing annoys me more than corresponding with someone who is either illiterate (can’t spell, can’t use upper case letters when appropriate) or uses too many “shortcuts.” IMO, if U use 2 many of those, I can’t read what you’re writing because it hurts my brain to try to figure it all out. I don’t know your writing style, so I’m not saying that’s the reason, I’m just saying that’s one possibility that exists.
Another is the subject matter you choose to discuss. If it’s not something that’s of interest, or is blatantly ignorant, people won’t want to talk to you any further. For instance, if you came to the SD boards and said how much you’d like it if your girlfriend would poof up her hair, be sure to douche before sex and keep her toenails painted for your visual pleasure, you wouldn’t find too many people interested in corresponding with you. Also, if you meet someone in a discussion forum that was all about frogs and you emailed them about cows, unless you were discussing your shared title of god or godess of those species, you’d really be hopping into the wrong lily pond, so to speak.
Now since all of that was said purely as examples and not based on anything I know about you specifically, I’d also like to make a recommendation. I notice that you are new to the SDMB (you have fewer than 10 posts according to your profile). Perhaps a good thing to do is to hang out for a while, reading and responding to various topics of interest. As you click on things that are eye-catching to you, you will find others in those very topics who had an interest in that subject matter as well.
Read, read, read. The more you get to know people here, the more likely you are to find those with whom you have common interests and who might be interested in striking up conversations off the boards. If (when) you find someone you’re consistently agreeing with, if they’ve posted a link to their email address, that’s a clear indication that they’re open to receiving correspondence and then you can email them about one of their postings that you’d like to expand on.
That would be my suggestion du jour. Give it a try and see how it works. And good luck!
“How wonderful it is that nobody need wait a single moment before starting to improve the world.” - Anne Frank