Nosy Control Freak? or am I just over sensitive?

In My Humble Opinion
1

OK, give me your opinion on this.

In addition to the million other things I have going at any one time, I also run an officiating association with a friend of mine. Basically I handle all the personnel issues (both coaches and umpires), and my friend handles the legal stuff, contracts, player eligibility knowledge, payroll, etc.

So, here’s the deal. Yesterday I had a couple of phone calls (both initiated by me).
Call 1: I called a coach to follow up with him about providing umpires to a series of games (minature tournaments, if you will) he was going to be holding to promote his batting and pitching schools. As it turns out they didn’t make. He asked me to email him when I had a chance and give him my up to date contact info. I did just that, with a short note saying basically that I was sorry his tournament didn’t make, etc. My friend was copied on the email.

Call 2: I called an old umpire friend of mine that had asked me to call him that evening. It turns out he wants to get back into umpiring with us, and was asking me what he should do. After the call, I emailed him too with all the particulars of our training, etc., again with my friend copied on the emial.

Now here’s what gets under my skin, and I’m not quite sure why. In both cases he sent a reply to me asking that I forward him the original email that was the source of my emails. I responded back in each case saying it was response to a phone call.

I feel like he’s afraid he’s going to miss something or worse, afraid that I’M missing something. I can’t put my finger on it, but it bugged the hell out of me.

Am I being too sensitive? Or is my friend being too nosy.

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Probably, in some other email context, he’s gotten used to being copied on replies and having to ask for the original email. Now he’s just jumping to the same (incorrect) assumption. Hopefully he’ll get over it or you could slip in “Per our phone conversation, …” to your messages as a clue.

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He probably doesn’t think you’ve missed anything. If he’s a legal type, he’s probably just in the habit of requesting complete records of any written correspondence. Generally if I copy our legal or compliance departments on something that refers to an earlier discussion, they’ll ask if there were any earlier emails or letters and, if so, could I forward them a copy. If I tell them it was a phone conversation, they’re fine with that. But since written stuff can be brought back later and used against us, they want to make sure their records are complete.

4

I forgot to add that sometimes our legal department will ask me for copies of any written correspondence even if they know ahead of time there isn’t any. The reason is that they want a permanent record of me stating no such items exist.

5

You’re being vastly unfair to your friend.
You’ve forced him to overhear half a conversation and don’t want to ask about the other half?
Get real!
Either give him all of a conversation, or just a summary created for him, or don’t mention it at all. But don’t give him only the responses.