I must say, I’m surprised how many times I’ve seen on these boards statements like these, that there’s something wrong with a family that has more than an “acceptable” number of children. (Not sure what that is, but I’m sure my family violates that rule.) It was nice growing up one of many – plenty of people to play with, even when you were mad at some of them. And if your implication is that only ignorant folks from the sticks have many kids, my parents met in college, both have bachelors, my mom has a masters, between them they speak seven languages, they’ve traveled the world, and all their kids are out of the nest and college grads. And while I believed growing up that we were “living in the sticks,” truthfully, we always lived in suburbs of relatively large cities (New York, London, LA).
In college, I met many people who came from “large” families; some lived in big cities (Chicago and DC that I remember); some came from smaller towns (Phoenix and Austin that I remember); so I’m not really sure why you think people in New York couldn’t also have big families.
Perhaps this is a whoosh. If so, sorry.