I’m very hesitant to make any post that even remotely sounds like I’m condoning child rape in any way. Which I’m not. But… a lot of what Broomstick is saying is not only true, but basically completely inarguably true in a way that shouldn’t even be controversial.
(1) There clearly IS a scale for how bad things are.
A 19-year-old has sex with a 19-year old. Ethically fine, totally legal.
19- and 18-. Ethically fine, totally legal.
19- and 17-. Ethically starting to get sketchy, legality varies based on state
19- and 16-
19- and 15-
etc
19- and 5-. Ethically HORRIFYING, totally and completely illegal in all jurisdictions.
Clearly, ethically, there is no one line where you say “well, on this side of the line, it’s OK, and on the other side, it’s horrible”. And yet on one end it’s 100% OK and on the other end it’s about the worst offense to humanity that anyone can commit. So there obviously is an ethical scale, where it gets worse and worse as you go down (likely plateauing at some point), and that ethical scale may not particularly correspond to the scale of legality. Which is pretty much unavoidable, because laws about age-related stuff generally speaking have to have a cutoff age lest they become unworkable.
(2) There is clearly some relevance to whether someone physically looks mature. NOT in a “this is an excuse that should get me a shorter sentence prison” sense, but in a “how people probably think about the offender” sense. This is for two reasons:
(a) Most people are physically attracted to people of one or other (or both) sexes. And in general, that sexual attraction starts once they are showing secondary sexual characteristics. For most people who are attracted to females, the physiological reaction they’d have to a photo of a naked 8-year-old girl and a naked 14-year-old girl are very very different. We all understand that. So the crime of raping an 8-year-old is vastly more alien and horrifying to us because it’s not only illegal and damaging, it’s also twisted and incomprehensible.
(b) There’s also the possible ignorance factor. If a 10-year-old literally looks like a 16-year-old and an 18-year-old hits on her, honestly believing her to be 16, well, that’s something that we can understand… we’ve all heard tales of 30-year-old men sleeping with 20-year-old women who turn out to be very mature looking 16-year-olds.
To put it another way, if I had an 18-year-old acquaintance who was convicted of statutory raping a 10-year-old, I wouldn’t say “well, that 10-year-old looked 16, hey, let’s use that as evidence and appeal this wrongful conviction”, but if I was convinced that honest-ignorance-of-age was involved that might well affect how I personally felt about the 18-year-old, how willing I was to continue to be associated with someone who had been convicted (correctly) of committing what society generally views as an incredibly heinous crime.
None of this means that rape of anyone is OK ever, or that rape of children is OK ever. But to respond to Broomstick’s very correct point that not all rape, and not even all rape-of-underaged-people, is the same; as if Broomstick were somehow being an apologist for rape, or trying to downplay it, is just bizarre. People are acting as if Broomstick said “sure, he raped a kid, but the kid was a 10-year-old, and some 10-year-olds look sexually mature, so, hey, mistakes happen, not a biggie” or something like that. Which could not be further from the truth.