fecetious!? Is that something like making fun of poop?
I can understand the annoyance. In public, one’s sense of personal space becomes much more pronounced than when one is in more personal arenas. My space is my space, Godammit. So when someone else takes my space, be it via peripheral fat, extraneous and inappropriate cell phone/conversational noise or invasive drunkoid behaviour, It offends me.
The fact that the offending PoS (Person of Size) actually took efforts to buffer her friends from her preipheral fat, but saw no problem in squashing an unsuspecting third party does naught but condemn her. Her behaviour is not unlike a smoking passenger in a car that is next to your car and flicks his ashes in your car to avoid messing his friend’s car.
I hope this doesn’t burst your bubble, but that was not an official Warning, just a reminder of the rules. For mild violations like that, as long as you don’t keep doing what we asked you not to, we don’t ding your permanent record.
not to hijack, but I’m still “young” and learning. In other forums, when negative epithets have been slung, the slinger has been told to save it for the Pit. Here we are in the Pit, and they’re still not allowed? very
Calling a user a Troll is specifically not allowed, oh and please don’t call a mod a C*nt. That’s the only “negative epithets” I have seen specifically disallowed.
I believe the universally not accepted racial slurs are also prohibitted.
I had it happen to me on a Southwest Airlines flight, well I didn’t get a blood clot but I did get squished. I got stuck between two large people, one of which lifted the arm of the seat and oozed over into mine forcing me into the other arm. I’d say she eventually occupied a quarter of my seat. I didn’t dare lift the other arm for fear that the other person would ooze into my seat as well. The plane was completely full so there was no other place to go. People shouldn’t be able to lift those armrests unless they are with the person on the other side.
As for the OP, it sounds like the woman’s problem wasn’t so much that she was obese, just that she was rude. She did buy an extra seat but only so as not to bother her friends. If you can’t bother your friends why do you think you can bother a stranger? Why not request an aisle seat or move over once someone else sat on her other side?
Someone should design a FatGuard system for these situations: a set of rigid barriers (thin but strong) that can be clipped or mounted into airline or theatre seats. They should be tall enough to prevent peripheral fat violations and such, and foldable in carry-on luggage.
Well, I’m a fat person, and I fly on airplanes (and go to movies). I like to lift the armrest in airplanes to ooze over a bit, too. But you know what? I absolutely would not do it without the freely-given consent of the person sitting next to me!. That’s just fucking rude. If I have to suffer with constrained space, it’s my own damn problem. I warn people that I snore*, too, and tell them that they’re welcome to wake if it’s at all a problem. My physical problems shouldn’t become other people’s problems.
Well, not that I am a a light weight but I definately fit in my seat.
I have been jammed in the back most seat of an airplane with an oversized lady in the middle seat and me squashed into the bulkhead. This was one of the most uncomfortable nights of my life.
I don’t like flying to start with and she was taking up some of the little bit of seat space provided me. She was a nice enough lady, but the flight was horrible and my back was hurting for the next 2 days.
Sad to say, I’ve been in a transAtlantic Business Class seat next to someone who was large enough to bleed over onto my seat.
Yes…with slightly more than 12 inches of center console between us, he still managed to drape part of his…mass…over onto my seat.
Thankfully because I’m so small, I could hide from him on the other side of my seat without touching him, but it still was very uncomfortable. Not too long after the flight got to cruise, they moved him to another seat, because he was so large, he was blocking enough of the aisle that they said it was a safety hazard!
I went to a hockey game w/ some co-workers, one of whom was quite wide. His seat was next to mine. He forced himself into his seat w/ much grunting and self-deprecating jokes. When I went for snacks I asked if he wanted anything and he announced his intention to remain seated through the end of the game as it was painful to squish as he’d done initially, hence no beverage. He said he was still in some pain, which I believed as the armrests didn’t move and you could tell they cut into him. We’re not just talking about larger people being uncomfortable here, we’re talking about physical pain and lasting agony. But does it compare to the pain of shamefully asking to be seated in a handicapped seat, etc? They should ask for accomodation, but I fully understand why they might not and it isn’t out of selfishness, Bubastis.
Sad hijack - that co-worker died of a heart attack less than 2 weeks later @ age 52 and was found after a couple days in his apartment by some other co-workers who’d grown concerned when he didn’t show for work.
Thinking back, I wasn’t quite right with what I posted. We used two of the tickets (Busch and Cup races). The tickets for ARCA and IRL went unused. I thought about eBaying them, but it seemed that everyone else had the same idea. You couldn’t get $5 for the pair of IRL tickets even with Danica being there.
Somehow that seems unworkable. Got anything else?
It does remind me of all the people in basic training that were either overweight or couldn’t do a minimum number of pushups. They pretty much got held in the “in processing” phase and spent all day running around in bright yellow PT gear. I wonder if the Army still has that practice? It seems hardly PC, but I don’t know how you could let the people try to start basic training.
It is possible that the seat was emoty because one of their friends could not make it? I am a large person who due to my size can’t ride some roller coasters and when I fly I need a seat belt extenstion but I’ve never had to lift the armrests to sit in a plane seat.
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