Unless you’re assuming that heavy automatically equals unattractive, and that a heavy woman seeking a slim man is therefore looking for a guy who is out of her league.
The fact of the matter is that people like what people like. I’m fat, but I don’t find overweight men attractive. Why would I seek an overweight man? Because I don’t deserve a man I find attractive because I’m fat myself? And just because I guy is fat himself doesn’t mean that he finds heavy women attractive. Why should he date a woman that he doesn’t find attractive? Because he thinks he can’t do any better? That sounds like a recipe for unhappiness.
If I was in the dating world and I happened to meet a heavy guy I found attractive, I would certainly pursue him. But if I had to specify what I was looking for, I would certainly specify a non-overweight guy. Why? Because I have never been attracted to a heavy guy in my life. I have several heavy male friends who I do think are attractive in an abstract sense–I probably wouldn’t date them myself, but I can see why their wives find them attractive. Come to think of it, the wives in question are slender and beautiful.
Khadaji: Don’t assume you won’t find the slender girl of your dreams just because you’re not slender yourself. It’s not a matter of finding a woman who is not “shallow.” It’s a matter of finding a woman who happens to be attracted to YOU.
I assume you’re on Match, right? Match has this very strange feature to it…it considers “height” to be the alpha qualifier to all matches. Somebody can be your match in every single category except height, and they won’t be matched with you. On the other hand, if the only category you match is height, you stand a decent chance of being matched with someone, even if they’re looking for a lawyer who likes opera and makes $100,000/yr, and you’re a sanitation worker who likes rap music and makes $15K.
Dumb? Extremely. But IMHO that’s not even the dumbest thing about Match…
Here goes, I hope this works this time…Their Profile : Match
If it doesn’t, go to Match and search for username, 327Portia. And ‘carpetbombers’ for those not in the know, are people who email/wink at everyone w/ a picture, regardless of matching potential, thus wasting other people’s time. They are wankers and must be stopped.
Aw, you’re sweet! And the age difference can be made up in footrubs, little known fact.
I wish Match had a box to check for ‘willing to relocate’, like SciConnect does. I hate the winters here, and some of the people, and would love a good excuse to move south or west. That said, I don’t respond to guys who email me from Ohio; I don’t have the wherewithal to keep a long distance relationship.
Those of you unfamiliar, SciConnect is a matching service for people in the science and tech fields, though there are a smattering of other fields represented. It’s a third the cost of Match…but there’s only a few thousand people on it, mostly male.
Please note that the use of the word “shallow” is in a quote from my women friends. I think people are attracted to whatever they are attracted to and have no problem with it. And if woman comes along who knocks my socks off and I hers, well then that would be great.
Khadaji: You know, I realize I sounded somewhat condescending in what I said to you. I apologize. What I guess I was trying to say is that I like you as a poster, and I’d expect that you’re equally as charming in real life. I didn’t want you to miss any opportunities because you assume that a lady that you like wouldn’t be interested in you because you’re overweight.
Portia–please consider Elmwood, even though he’s in Ohio. I know he’d love to add another Portie to his pack. (Ha ha. I’m so funny.)
I see someone got their profile pictures from the state fair Cute.
Nice to hear of someone that takes these online things seriously. FWIW Here’s my link, Me* Just a youngin’ round these parts, but dont’ let the age fool you . I’d gladly take you out some weekend.
Don’t take this profile too seriously. I am an engineer by trade but i try not to scare off the common folk.
No, seriously, my head is far too easily turned to maintain something long distance, sadly enough. Singing: “And if you can’t be with the one you love, honey, love the one you’re with.”
Men are like real estate - the important thing is location, location, location.
Oh, and size…
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I have one too, I’ve had it for about 4 months, I still type horribly on it.
