For all of you landlord and landlady dopers out there, let me hear your stories and warnings about new tenants, evictions, and other things.
As for our situation, it could be summed up in one word “ugh”. A bit of backstory: My SO bought a second house years ago and is renting it to his ex-mother-in-law who also has let her daughter, my SO’s ex-wife, stay there on the weekends so she has room when she has visitation with the kids. Well, it looks like the ex-wife has moved in there full time and rent is 3 months past due and has been since June. They’ll pay the backrent, but then still owe the next month’s rent. The cycle has shown further signs of slowing down since the ex-MiL has been hospitalized for various health problems and has stopped working her various part time jobs. The ex-wife hasn’t worked in over a year and is collecting unemployment from her nanny job (and thinks taking any other job, like McDonald’s, is way beneath her).
There’s a reason I’m with my SO, he’s a sweetheart, and a bit of a pushover. Unfortunately, he’s also always good cop to my bad cop and doesn’t know when to say “no”. After many a long talk with him about how unhappy he is with them owing so much without plans on paying him, he finally let me take the reins a bit. I looked up the local rental laws, followed the first step which is to send and post a “notice to pay rent or quit”. This has to be given 30 days prior to filing with the courts. In that time, he has gotten daily calls from the ex-MiL, the ex-wife, and the ex-wife’s father who hasn’t been married to the ex-MiL for 20 years. All three begging that he doesn’t evict them. They’re attempting to manipulate him (“why are you being so mean to us?”) into staying without paying the rent as well.
In fact, when we went to pick up the kids on Sunday, our eight year old daughter came out of the house, head hung down, shoulders slumped. I asked her why the face, “because daddy is trying to take mommy’s last $100 and making her lose the house”. Now it’s one thing when they try and manipulate my SO. It’s another for getting the kids involved and I’m very protective of them. (I explained to her that we weren’t losing the house since we owned it, but Mommy does need to look for a place of her own to live in). It took all I could to not say anything more, but I do not want them ever to be used as pawns. Grr.
One question, for landlords who have had to evict, how do you rent out the place? Do you wait until the current tenants are out, or do you show the place as you normally would?
What other tips/advice do you have? (Besides never ever ever ever ever renting to ex-anythings)