On getting older...

This is an outright sulk. Indulge me. This is my own little pity party

I’m turning 25 in 2 days. 1/4 of a century. And I’ve got to say, I’m not happy about it. I know that this is a minor whinge in the scheme of things. 30 or 40 is probably scarier. But I don’t know about that, I’m not there yet.

I’m turing 25, and I haven’t done any of the things that I had wanted to by this age. By 25 I wanted to own a house. I wanted to be married or well down on the way towards that. I wanted a career that had taken off, and wanted to have found what I’m good at and what my passions are. Normal stuff, nothing too fancy. Instead, I’ve been single for almost 8 years, without even a hint of potential on the love front. I’m not liking the way I look, I’m still the lowest of the low in the company that hired me 2.5 years ago as a graduate, and it’s not what I had planned.

So in 2 days, I’ll be 25, and I guess I’m just disappointed that life hasn’t turned out the way I wanted. For the first time the realisation that life is slipping away from me has dawned, and it’s daunting.

I know that I’ve got a lot going for me, I know that I’m smart, educated and well spoken. I have friends who obviously don’t find me so objectionable as to spend time with me. But somehow, right now, that doesn’t seem to count for much.

So I don’t know what the matter with me is. Maybe I’m just overtired, maybe I’m disillusioned. But I don’t want to turn 25.

A 40 year old fart poking her nose in, here.

Leaving all the “But, you’re only 25!” stuff (which gets old in itself, real fast) – robin308, you have a whole list of wants, there. Any idea of how you intend to get to those wants, to achieve them? You’re not in the position you’d like to be jobwise – would further training help? Is that possible in your situation? And what is it about the way you look that you find less than hoped for?

You could be pinning too much on that magic number 25. I had a case of the blues leading up to four-oh, myself – getting nowhere, stuck in a rut, “what the heck have I achieved?” sort of thing.

For me, though, I’ve just started the second half of my life. And it’s exciting.

If you care to – tell us more.

Personally, I wouldn’t be 25 again for anything. Things got so much better after I passed 30, and as I approach 50 (3 months) I don’t see anything changing for the worse.

Not that you asked for my advice, but it’s free, so take it for what it’s worth: Ignore birthday “milestones” - they’re distracting and pretty much worthless. Take a look at where you are and where you want to go and what it’ll take to get there - then decide if it’s what you want to do. Don’t get wrapped up in the notion that you “should” have accomplished one thing or another by certain times of your life - it’s never that tidy.

Enjoy your birthday! Celebrate, relax, reflect on the first quarter century and think about what you might like in the next. Mostly, don’t sweat the small stuff - life’s more fun when you live it! :smiley:

Happy Birthday!!

I will be 39 in less than a month, dammit. What I wouldn’t give to 25 again.

[sub]If I could retain the knowledge and experience[/sub]