Has anyone here who has ever said the dreaded words “let’s just be friends”, or had it said to them, experienced a change of heart later on? Or does a snowball have a better chance in hell than that occurring?
Never say never.
But I’d say the chances of a pig flying in a frozen-over hell are more probable.
If she’s not attracted to you, there’s a good reason for it, and that’s probably not gonna change unless there’s a large change in either you or her.
I’ve gotten the “friends” thing a few times, and it sucks the bad daddy bigdog.
Back in college I made a pass at a friend of mine, which was skillfully avoided. We kept in touch off-and-on. Eight years later she wanted to get something started, and by that time I wanted to be friends. So it’s not hopeless, but it damn sure ain’t easy.
I don’t know if this counts. But five months ago, I started having an intense romantic/sexual relationship with a woman who I’ve known and been friends with for 15 years.
So I guess anythings possible. 
Well, they used to say ‘faint heart never won fair lady’ - meaning that you should keep trying harder and harder - but I think they just call that ‘stalking’ nowadays…
My first serious gf was a ‘let’s just be friends’ type for over 6 months. When I finally stopped trying and told her as such, the romance started. The relationship lasted 18 months which was pretty good for a 17yr old…
:…looks back wistfully…:
I’m married to my friend of 3 years, so it can be done! I was firmly in the friend zone but never gave up trying. Maybe the fact that I started a relationship with someone else helped jump start her brain. Or maybe it was the competition of me and a “friend” both going after her affections at the same time. (Boy was that a mess, poor schlub never had a chance but he was a tenacious little bastard) But we’ve been married three years now (Married barefoot on a beach in Hawaii, WOOHOO!) and couldn’t be happier.
Usually when I heard it, I clearly understood it to mean “I don’t actually want to see you again, but I’m to chicken to say that out loud.”
Give up and move on.
“Friends” for a guy is the equivalent of calling a girl a “slut” it’s the kiss of death. You don’t want to be called that, though you want to be SOMEWHAT viewed in that light. Just like a “slut” will more often than not be used for sex. A “friend” will be used for emotional support when the one they want dumps them.
Erek
I knew it! When girls say they want “nice guys” what they are really saying is that they want nice guys to be available as a shoulder to cry on when their asshole boyfriends dump them.
“Just friends” in girlspeak means: “He’s an emotional support and he pays for lunch, but if he tries to lay a finger on me he’ll never see me again.”