i just found out that my friend died last week. I’m utterly devastated.He was 32 and one of the most brilliant guys you’d ever meet. He loved Doctor Who and I burst into tears when I saw the new female Doctor. He would have loved it.
In fact, he just turned 32 on the 4th of July. That was one of our last text messages. He was in the hospital and I was going to the Cubs game. I introduced him to baseball back in 2014, bought him a Cubs World Series shirt for Christmas last year, and sent pics of the Cubs game on July 4.
He loved Chicago and wanted to move here once he was better. He wasn’t a Doper, but he would have been a good one. He was brilliant, received a degree in journalism from the Cronkite school at ASU.
I’ll miss the daily text messages about minor things. We used to joke about food often. He loved to put ketchup on everything, when I told him it should be used in moderation and only on fries. He loved sweet tea which I found a crime against drinks. He hated chicken that wasn’t fried, and would often needle me about that.
Now, I’ve got to write a sympathy card to his family, who I never met. I’m going to take a couple days to do so. I want them to know how wonderful a person he was and it’s going to take me some time to get those thoughts into words. I can’t imagine how awful it is to have a child die at 32.
My best friend just had another massive heart attack, and is well on his way out. Says he can barely climb a single flight of stairs at sea-level. Doctors have him all full of drugs and shit. Says he can’t even have a beer!
I don’t expect him to be around for too awful long. If I was him, I’da given up years ago.
My sincerest sympathies. It’s a very nice gesture that you are putting time into the card you write to the family. I hope it helps them in their grieving process. Your friends sounds like a good guy, and he’ll surely be missed by a lot of people.
I am so sorry to hear of your lost of your best friend . This is the second forum I used that has a member that lost a good friend , that person was young too ,39 yo. This is so sad .
I am sincerely sorry to hear that. I wish the best for you and his family. I have lost many friends too and most of them were sudden. The worst is a very close friend that isn’t technically dead but might as well be. He was apparently beaten almost, but not quite, to death in his home and is in a persistent vegetative state. I get updates on his “health” from his parents that once treated me like a son a few times a week. I want to tell them to just pull the plug because there is no hope but I can’t do that.
I lost two young coworkers this year as well. One was in his early 20’s, in top physical condition and a competitive MMA fighter. He was driving back from the gym when a truck cut him off. He hit a tree at the exactly right angle to kill him. His younger brother also in the car only got minor injuries. Another was a woman in her early 30’s that was driving home and had a sudden, massive stroke. She must have known something was going wrong because she pulled over beside the road but it took almost an hour for anyone to check on her and she was already dead by that point.
Life is short and precarious. It is tragic when something like that happens but it is sadly common. My heart goes out to you and his family.
Thank you for all the support. I ordered an 8X10 photo print of my friend’s last trip to Chicago to send to his family. I’ll buy a sympathy card today and start the process of writing the letter to the family. He is the closest person I’ve ever lost, and at age 32, it seems unfair.
My condolences. I’m reminded too of a coworker in his 20s; he was in shipping department and studying to become a certified technician. I was helping him a bit for the certification exams. Then weeks later we had a meeting for an announcement he died in his sleep from cerebral hemorrhage. THe company was courteous to let the shippers out early for his funeral.
I agree writing a letter to his family would be good. There was very popular youtuber last year who died suddenly, and the outpouring of support and love from the youtube community was incredible. There was a boy who was inspired by him and cried on video, but that he pulled himself together to do a tribute for him.
