Online dating disasters

In My Humble Opinion
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Had a surreal experience recently:

In the wake of a past online relationship that dragged long past its expiration date, I was checking Craiglist personals and was suprised to meet an actual human being and not some pornspambot. We exchanged emails a bit, and it very quickly occurred that we were looking for the same things in life relationship-wise. Very rapidly this woman took an intense interest in me, only problem she lived 400 miles away. While I’m not terribly enthusiatic about meeting someone 400 miles away that I meet 2 weeks prior, she was willing to fly out to meet me and stay at my place for the weekend, and since I was off, I figured, why not? We had both discussed that there were no guarantees, that there was always the chance that one of us might not be interested.

From her photos she shared, she looked pretty good. However, being familiar with the whole ‘fat girl angle shot’ I wanted to make certain the photo she was showing me was actually really her, not some version of her 10 years/100 lbs ago or something. So she chatted with me on webcam and I was (at the time) confident that yeah, her picture was accurate. Both of us looked forward to meeting each other.

We met, and unfortunately she wasn’t what I was expecting. Personality-wise, she was great to be around, and initially I thought, “well, I can’t judge solely on appearance, let’s see how the weekend goes”. However by the second day I was starting to really feel I just wasn’t feeling that ‘spark’ to head into a relationship with her, but wanted to spend the full weekend to fully make up my mind, so I wouldn’t be making a snap judgement (nor would I be cowardly and wait till she already left to say I wasn’t interested). Unfortunately I kind of got cornered into admitting I only saw her as a friend, and she was pretty devastated.

Having made plans to spend the weekend at my apartment, the next 24 hours were pretty goddamn awkward. AGain, I still had interest in a friendship with her because of all our common hobbies, but she couldn’t seem to allow herself to be friends with someone she was deeply attracted to. She said I ‘broke her heart’ which I found rather confusing considering we had just started chatting 2 weeks prior and the whole point of meeting was to see if there was a connection.

Unfortunately only after the fact did I surmise that in spite of being the same age as me, she didn’t have the same kind of experience dealing with online dating rejection, where you’re going to get a lot of ‘you’re a great person, I’m just not interested in you that kind of way’ and have to learn to get over that. I did, it wasn’t an easy lesson but I got past it. What was worse was that she was stuck at my apartment, couldn’t get an earlier flight. Probably (well, more like CERTAINLY) it was a mistake on both our parts to get all psyched up about meeting each other and arrange to spend the weekend with what was practically a total stranger.

Anyone else have a similar level of disaster? This wasn’t just a ‘bad date’ situation, this was the Chernobyl of bad dates I suppose!

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Went out with a woman a few times, beautiful, smart, fun, and we had absolute earth shattering, soul melting, OMFG this is so Airwolf sex. (see ernie cline for explanation)

4 days later she moves a guy friend in with her because he has nowhere to stay, except in her bed of course.

A week later she calls me and asks me if she can see me. We go out to dinner, she give me huge sob story about how this was all some huge misunderstanding. Apparently she misunderstood the parts where he was allegedly employed, not currently wanted on any felony warrants, or willing to do anything other than watch sports and look for other women online.

Whatever, I’m a sucker, and the sex is legendary.

We go out a few more weeks, I’m starting to think this is going to turn into something good.

She doesen’t answer a message for 3 days, because she ran off with some other guy, who walked out and bailed on their plans when she would not have sex with him the first night they met. :rolleyes:

This woman basically kept pulling me back in, I was the guy who she seemed to always want around, but was unwilling to keep. I got to spend alot of time crying.

I finally stopped answering her calls, just couldnt take the bullshit anymore. Like your lady friend in the OP, I was that person. The one who really liked someone and they had no real interest in me, or at least not in any kind of relationship beyond glorified fuckbuddies.