I didn’t interact with Opal much, but she certainly had an impact on me as a poster here. She is an extremely memorable and unique poster, and I adore that. She also gave me much fodder for laughter…sometimes laughing with her, often laughing at her, but always liking her just fine.
I didn’t want to post much in the R.I.P thread, because I wanted that to be kind of a…pure thread? For those who knew her or were mourning her in a way that I can’t, considering that I never knew her in real life, and never have been the type of poster to see other posters as ‘real life’ friends.
I did end up posting in that thread, though, because I felt some posts were inappropriate and I felt the need to speak out. I think I was wrong to do that now, because I was really out of my element in that thread and was trying to comment on the way posters like CrazyCatLady and JillGat were grieving without really having a good understanding of their relationship with Opal.
@ JillGat, when I first read you guys’ posts, I misunderstood it, just like the mods did. I figured, why not just leave the snide remarks out of that thread?
But on rethinking, it occurred to me that you all knew her in a way that I didn’t, and so you have the right to grieve her how you see fit, and she would probably take your comments in the spirit they are intended. So I jumped in yall biz there, and I feel bad about that.
On the other hand, it seems like the Dope very rarely has a…sanctuary thread, where even the most sensitive of posters can post without getting offended, and that kind of thread seems like the perfect time to have that.
Anyway, I think this would be a good thread to post Opal stories or memories that those of us who didn’t know her personally can join in to say a bit more than, “my condolences.”
I’m not suggesting that we bash her, that would be just yucky. I am suggesting that we have a chance to discuss her outside of the sanctuary of the R.I.P thread.
I will start by remembering something about her that I think doesn’t fit in that other thread…
Opal wanted help with getting rid of a scar. She stated plainly in the OP that she wasn’t interested in ‘learning to live’ with the scar or any of that shit. She *read *dopers so good…she knew most responses would have nothing to do with actually helping her get rid of the scar…
Welp, did no good. A bunch of responses weren’t there to help with the damn requested help. Instead, a bunch of posters were posting about how she could just photoshop the photos and edit them. When she balked, folks just kept hammering, “Well, what’s the difference? Why does it matter?”
Haaa, poor Opal. She couldn’t win for losing!