This thread deserves a bump and it might as well be me. (Sorry long)
A few years ago, I called my sweet little grey-headed Momma on her 70th birthday. “Hey, Momma, Happy Birthday, how you doin’?”
Momma replied that she’d just been “lying here on the couch thinking about being seventy. I don’t feel bad, my health is good, I still have my teeth…it’s just the fact that I’m seventy. Inside my head, I don’t feel any different…it’s just that I’m trying to deal with the fact that I’m SEVENTY.”
I was a bit taken aback…this is the woman who cackled when I called her on my 40th and told her the only thing I had to look forward to now was menopause. The same woman who sent my vain little sister a rain hat on her 40th. (And not one of the nice ones with the boo-font preserving plastic ribs that only the 80+ women on the bus seem to have; it was one of those plain ones that fit into a 1x3 vinyl pouch - you used to find them at Woolworth’s - who has them now?)
Every b’day I have, every time I start thinking about my age…I think of what Momma said. “Inside my head, I don’t feel any different…”
This year Momma climbed the Hatteras Lighthouse two weeks before her 75th b’day. The Hatteras Light is 198 feet tall, 168 steps to the top. Momma is afraid of heights. But by gawd, she did it! Last time I was home, she commented on the fact that the stairs in the lighthouse fell shortly after she climbed them. She did not like that one bit.
But inside her head, she doesn’t feel any different.
I reckon it’s what’s inside your head, Stoid. Get the demons out - don’t let them tell you you can’t do what you want, don’t let them tell you you’re too “old”. Declare yourself the Queen of something (anything, it doesn’t matter) and act accordingly.
Take advantage of your over-40 fabulousness. Say and do whatever you damn well please. Try it, it’s extremely freeing. Friends told me I would experience a new freedom when I hit 40. It was hard for me to believe, since I’ve always been quite outspoken. But it’s true.
And Rocking Horse, thanks for the welcome to the boards and the new tiara! Cute shoes! Tell your Momma I said “Hi!”