because they were not mistaken ? i am not the same person now as i was then.
I feel really bad for you that you actually seem to believe that. If there are people in your life who either treat you, or SEEM to treat you with respect merely because you’ve lost fat and gained muscle weight and a strong body, then they’re viewing things JUST as superficially and incorrectly insofar as how “real life” works, as you are.
I do see your point however. When people change, especially in appearance, others often will “treat” them differently. But what you need to know, and perhaps ask yourself is “is it real” or is it just surface?
As in, do they honestly respECT/respect you? For who you are, what you’re able to accomplish, who you are as a person? Or are they merely responding to the aggressive hostility and avoiding it and you, or going along to GET along merely to keep the peace and not have you go postal.
It’s entirely possible that people will allow someone to “have their own way” as long as it’s really no skin off of their teeth. If I were you, I wonder how much you’d be able to “force” someone to do, if it were something that they TRULY cared about.
I suspect that you’d find that all the “respect” and having people “do what you say” would disappear like a morning mist.
And it’s not just the “muscle thing”, this would be true if the person had a sense of entitlement and bravado about ANY superficial thing, be it looks, money, learned skillls, and so on.
When push comes to shove, and as I said before, ONE mere superficial attribute, (no matter HOW big), does not true respect and success bring.
I know you worked really hard to change your body and your life. And that’s something to be proud of. But it’s not the only thing, not by a long shot.
Someone else said you might want to print out this thread, and put it away for a few years, and then bring it back out. Whoever said that. It’s an EXCELLENT idea.