We strongly encourage reading for our ten-year old. At first, our approach was all wrong. We selected almost all his reading material once he was old enough to stop reading picture books. We had him read the ‘classics’ (The Adventures of Tom Sawyer, Treasure Island, some of the Narnia series, A Christmas Carol, The Adventures of Huckleberry Finn, The Count of Montecristo). He also read short biographies about Harriet Tubman, Frederick Douglass, Abraham Lincoln, George Washington, Benjamin Franklin, Queen Elizabeth I, Marco Polo, W.E.B. Dubois, Rosa Parks and Thomas Jefferson. Boy, did he hate reading! In retrospect, requiring him to write reports (usually just a few sentences) and identify vocabulary words from the material probably didn’t help matters.
We switched gears last year and allowed him to select his own books. So far he’s read Tony Hawk’s autobiography, Just Stupid, The Day My Butt Went Psycho!, The Bad Beginning, some non-fiction science books (astronomy, biology, chemistry, anatomy), a book about Denmark, a book about Spain, books about Egpytian mummies and two or three Judy Moody books. He’s much happier and actually makes time to read. Whenever he has a question about how something works, a country or the history of something, we head over to bn.com or amazon.com, find a book about it and order it. He’s learned so much! Of course, he’d still rather play a video game or go outside than read, but kids will be kids.
We’ve learned our lesson and will take this approach with the others. Our younger boys are a little too young to read independently, so they still gather around for story time. Story time is a few times during the day (dad’s home most of the time during the day) and at least once in the evening when I get home. We read and discuss the story and pictures and then draw pictures or make puppets out of paper lunch bags based on the book.
This thread was inspired by one in MPSIMS about an eleven-year old who received gift cards that totaled over $250. In it, the parent says his/her kid isn’t ‘into books’. I tried forever to wrap my mind around an eleven-year old kid not being into books and it just didn’t work. My thread was also inspired by a thread DeVena posted a few weeks (months?) back about book suggestions for her niece and nephew as their parents don’t buy them books (!!!).
I don’t know for how long we can require our oldest to read. Our goal is to establish good reading habits now so they’ll be interested in reading later in life. We realize now our initial approach was counter-productive. Our ten-year old enjoys reading now that it isn’t a chore so I guess we didn’t inflict too much damage. I’m sure once he becomes a teenager we’ll no longer be able to require him to read. We hope, of course, he’ll continue to read independent of his school-assigned reading, assuming he’ll have time (I don’t remember that I had that kind of time in high school).
The following questions are for parents of children ages seven through thirteen. Parents of older children, feel free to tell me what you did when your kids were younger and how it worked out for you and them. Parents of younger children, feel free to post what your plan to do. If you have no kids, feel free to post about your childhood reading requirements (or lack thereof) and how it worked out for you.
Do you require your kids to read? Did you/will you require them to read ‘the classics’? Do you let them select their own books? Do they like reading? Do you have to remind them to read or will they read on their own? If your kids don’t read, what do they do when they’re not outside playing?