I’m curious (for a selfish reason) about what you like and don’t like about your pediatrician (or as in our case, out family practice doctor).
Here’s my reason. A friend of mine is about to begin his pediatric residency. He’ll be a good doctor, but he’s never been a parent, so he has no idea what it’s like being on the receiving end of his care. I’m hitting up other parents I know for their input, which I’ll compile and pass on to him in a nice document. It’s advice he can’t get any other way.
I think it will also make an interesting thread, so it’s not just for my benefit. But I thought I’d be honest in letting you know that (unless you object) I’d be passing your views on (preserving your anonymity) to a doctor-in-training.
What I like:
My doctor always asks “How’s it going” from my standpoint as a parent. Not how Cranky Jr is, but how I am feeling about things.
My doctor once said Cranky Jr. was “a joy to examine.” It’s not exactly a compliment I can take credit for (as far as this being some character trait I developed in him), but it gave me the warm fuzzies.
My doctor anticipates concerns down the road. Cranky Jr. met a lot of his gross motor milestones at the later end of normal, so fairly early on our doctor said it’s no big deal if he didn’t walk until later than 18 months. I was glad he said that, because Cranky Jr. didn’t walk until 17 months, and I was confident about it even when lots of other parents expressed surprise.
My doctor also always tells me what he’s looking for and why he’s doing the things he’s doing, like when they feel their hips and legs during that first year.
I like that he doesn’t try to give me parenting advice. Medical advice yes, parenting advice no, which is how it should be, IMHO.
What I don’t like:
I wish my doctor would recommend some good books about things. I am hungry for more info than he can give me in a 15-minute visit. I’ve found some great books on feeding, for example, that I just lucked into. I wish he’d offer some suggestions.
One time during a sick-kid visit one of the doctors in the practice said “Once you get more confident as a parent, you won’t have to bring him in so much for stuff like this.” I had brought him in exactly ONCE before for a raging ear infection. I had NEVER brought him in for little things–she just hadn’t read his chart, and assumed that because I brought him in for something small this time, I was some kind of parental hypochondriac. I am still pissed about her condescencion and her failure to even read our file.
One time I asked a question based on something I read (the connection between not crawling and dyslexia) and the doctor (again, not my usual doc) said “Where’d you read THAT? Cosmo?” I think she meant it as a lighthearted joke but I thought it was pretty inappropriate. The right response would have been “I don’t think you should be concerned, but tell me more about this; I haven’t heard of that.”