I had a course of addictions that all relate to my fear of having no control/not being in control.
It started with anorexia, where I starved/exercised myself from 170 lbs. or so down to 120 lbs. I wasn’t ‘textbook’ anorexic (I think my BMI was 19, whereas anorexia is below 18.5), but my eating habits were certainly disordered. After about a year of that, I started to ‘slip’ and turned to bulimia. I started binging and purging a number of times a day and this went on for about four months until I finally broke down and admitted it all to my husband. He found us a therapist and we started working on that.
Things got better for a few months but then I started drinking. I had never been a drinker, and certainly didn’t drink when I was anorexic, but after a while (about 2 years) I was to the point of drinking a fifth of vodka or a couple of bottles of wine a night in the span of about two hours or so. I’d drink to pass out (I’ve always had insomnia issues). Once my husband started getting concerned, I’d hide fifths of vodka around the house and drink ‘tea’ at night, which was actually NeoCitron. In between sips from a mug of that, I’d run in to the bathroom, guzzle a bunch of vodka, brush my teeth, etc. It eventually got to the point that I would drink one or two packets of NeoCitron, a fifth of vodka, and take two extra strength OTC sleeping pills in the two hours before bed. I was always hung over.
Then I started waking up in the middle of the night because I’d stop breathing. In retrospect, holy fuck I almost killed myself! My respiratory system was obviously depressed from multiple vectors. Thankfully, before I actually did kill myself, my husband called me on it and I checked in to outpatient rehab.
I did a three week government sponsored rehab program with a variety of other addicts. It made me realize that I didn’t want to be them (many were at rock bottom, losing children, on the streets, etc.) and that I’d better smarten up.
Through all of this we have maintained an ongoing relationship with our therapist (it’s been about 8 years since the beginning of all this) and she has helped us through the highs and lows. I have had a few slips (both alcohol and purging), but overall I can say I’m pretty much there. I am at a point where I don’t want to drink specifically because I don’t want to waste my time with it. I don’t starve myself or binge and purge because I’ve learned how to be healthy and strong instead. The sports I’m now involved in, as well as my awesome job and my grad studies are partly what is keeping me in line. I don’t have the *time *for an addiction.
That said, I still struggle with insomina and regularly take OTC sleeping pills. I’ve been referred to the sleep clinic but the wait list is over two years long. I actually just went to my GP to ask about this and they’ve resent the referral in hopes I’ll get in soon.